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Thegreatestthing Established Member

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I just want to hear from people who married or ended up with their soulmate and if it worked out.

 

I have the most wonderful bf who I love more than anything and I would be very devastated if I lost him,but I don't consider him my soulmate and I did tell him that he was ok about it and thinks we are ,it's just an energetic thing etc.

 

I also know a couple with two kids they have a blog and the wife says openly that theyre not soulmates but they have a great marriage they both wanted.

 

I know who my soulmate is and he loves me,but I can't even imagine being in a relationship with him,because it's all so idealised and dramatic,it doesn't always make the best relationship,he has this ideal of me that I could never live up too as well.

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It is easier to find a soul mate when you are not looking and secure in acceptance of who you are and your life. It could happen at any time no matter how young you are.

 

some think they have a soul mate because they have emotional ties deeper than ever before. A soul mate goes beyond emotions, as they are you in core components, yet are what you are not, as if you found existance that only identical twins share between themselves.

 

True soul mates last forever, as there is nothing that can break apart such a connection.

 

I know that my soul mate and I would be greatly devastated by a break up, as it is the last thing... actually we don't think about it, so it is not on our list. Hehehehehe! Though we are prepared for the worst, meaning death, or permanent separation. We've always discussed such matters as we realized how deep we felt early on. Since we both felt limited and unsure about our future being so far away, we had to accept everything as it is, and allow for our emotions to go through growing pains. We also found our deep issues through the years of walking along our path together to reach our current desitination. We still have a bit more walking, as she is married with childeren, along with being emotionally stable and happy enough not to devorce.

 

Some may look at it as a shared fantasy, that will be unfulfilling, and eventally come to pass. All I can say for it is that we both find each year more exciting than the last, and what we have cannot be any stronger, just once, when we are able to have each other in our arms, every bit of our emotions will be released like no other onto ourselves.

 

One odd thing we both share as soul mates, is the lack of fear... what ever happens happens, there are no regrets, just happiness and deep longing.

 

We could be greedy as to ruin our lives for each other, but we are not that way. We accept everything about each other, with full respect. To love is to accept and share without any expectations and demands.Even though we have separate lives, we enjoy sharing so deeply without limitations affecting us from shying away.

 

You cannot be soul mates with out full acceptance and understanding.

newmoon Established Member

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as of today there are 7.125 billion in the world. you really think you have a shot at finding your soul mate? and that, just maybe, it is the girl who lived next door, or the guy you work with? ummm... sure! verrrrrryyyyy likely!

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The concept of "soul mate" is something that gets bantered around a bit more often by people in their 20s.

 

Heck, when I got married at that age, I believed I had found my "soul mate." But it all came crashing down several years later and - several relationships later - when I got married again in my 50s, I believe the concept of "soul mate" is a misnomer of the youth.

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I've heard many people advise NOT to marry your soul mate. The reason is because a so-called soul mate is usually the one who rips apart your life and causes chaos. The reason is that humans seem to be drawn to their own destruction like a moth to a flame. It's more important to marry someone where there is mutual love and respect. It will produce a life of one-hundred fold joy and peace.

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Arieswoman Established Member

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thegreatestthing,

What is your definition of a "soulmate?" :confused:

Mister Zen Established Member

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Why do you believe in such a thing as a "soulmate" in the first place? Have you heard of such a thing anywhere other than the media? Probably not.

 

50% of marrages end in divorce and a significant percentage of the ones that don't are unhappy. Do the math and you have your answer. :)

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Someone with whom you have immediate familiarity and a strong sense of knowing,a strong internal gut feeling about them.I know one of my old bfs I was crazy about him but I never got that feeling,there is brand of bread here called "the one" and Everytime I would see it I would be reminded that I didn't have that deep certain feeling and get a bit stressed, but I felt it all the time for the soulmate guy,it's a no doubt,very certain feeling.

 

thegreatestthing,

What is your definition of a "soulmate?" :confused:

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Yes I feel that, like soulmate relationships create great poetry and songs and whatnot but there almost impossible to live with in a daily way ,I feel that exactly - you either choose a destructive and chaotic life with your soulmate but full of intensity etc or a pretty contented peaceful life with someone you just love,my bf makes my life so peaceful.

 

Maybe there are a few soulmate relationships out there that aren't so dramatic but usually sparks like that really enflame everything!:)

I've heard many people advise NOT to marry your soul mate. The reason is because a so-called soul mate is usually the one who rips apart your life and causes chaos. The reason is that humans seem to be drawn to their own destruction like a moth to a flame. It's more important to marry someone where there is mutual love and respect. It will produce a life of one-hundred fold joy and peace.
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if you belive in anything si possible .....yes

 

 

if you are cynical .....no.....if you go about your life and are open.....soul mates come in and out all the time.......meeting a possible soul mate happens regularly i believe.....staying with one....harder in the world to do than anything else.....years and years ago people believed in love more......the world is colder towards love now more than before, theres a reason and a design for this to be sure, we think we understand but its always god who knows more...god places peoples in our life for a specific season,time,purpose or reason......and i do believe some of these peoples are soul mates..and some of the people put in our lives are merely preps mistaken for true love.........if you talk about love and soul mates and together forever ...walls go up around people.....because there's too much cynicism in the world......thats why divorce is becoming the ideal....and marraige merely prenups.....the breakdown of love and family....hell yeah theres soul mates.....but divorce and shacking up gets in the way.....god keeps trying though......throwing people in together....and peopel ignoring anything is possible...must break gods heart......deb

Arieswoman Established Member

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thegreatestthing,

 

Re soulmates

 

Someone with whom you have immediate familiarity and a strong sense of knowing,a strong internal gut feeling about them

 

I had that feeling with my first (now X) husband when I was 23, and he said he felt the same about me. I relocated 300 miles to be with him. 7 years later I caught him out poking some skank at work who had a brain the size of a pea.

 

IMO this "soulmates" stuff is over-rated. :rolleyes:

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I think "Soulmate" isn't really suppose to mean "Sole mate"

 

I don't believe there's a single, magical person out there you share that kind of connection with.

 

But I do believe that a "soul" connection is a rare and beautiful thing, hard to describe if not experienced first hand. I also don't think it's some magical "cure all" for problems in a relationship, or the work that couples have to do to work through their problems.

 

For me, a soul mate is this;

 

It's a sense of connection that stand above and beyond everything you've experienced. It's where someone relates something deeply personal and as the words come out, you immediately and instinctively understand what they mean. Because the words they've used could have been your own.

 

It's an easiness. The time passes without even realizing it. No matter how much times passes, you never run out of things to talk about, never get bored of hearing about each others stories or thoughts. You are each others favorite companion.

 

It's having someone in your life who is not only your best friend, but your lover. Someone you know has your back, like you have theirs. A deep sense of simply "liking" one another. Of wanting the best for the other person.

 

It is the comfort of being seen, really seen and understood. Yet loved anyway. Warts and all.

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I don't think you can understand the soul mate thing until you've experienced it with someone.

 

Life is so strange,my bf must know something is up because yesterday he just suddenly says to me - I'm glad you chose me over that other guy.though I've never talked about soulmate guy, not for months and months.

 

Then today I get an email from soulmate guy,who I haven't spoken to in three months.

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I don't think you can understand the soul mate thing until you've experienced it with someone.

 

Life is so strange,my bf must know something is up because yesterday he just suddenly says to me - I'm glad you chose me over that other guy.though I've never talked about soulmate guy, not for months and months.

 

Then today I get an email from soulmate guy,who I haven't spoken to in three months.

 

So what are you planning to do.....

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No. I don't believe that.

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I don't know,yesterday me and my bf fought for about two hours we've never fought before,he just kept saying that I ignore him I had the worst headache after all of it.i was thinking of the other guy constantly,but I didn't reply.

This morning Im not thinking of him much and I just want to stay with my bf.

 

I don't think you always end up with a soulmate,Being a SoulMate is a spiritual attribute, thus you know it with your spirit, not with your mind.

 

Spiritual knowing is more immediate than whatever thoughts you can think. It's something that either is, or isn't. Even if the mind doubts, your Spirit doesn't.

 

So what are you planning to do.....
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