Chasin Posted October 31, 2014 Posted October 31, 2014 So I posted here before about my now EX.. We were perfectly fine before she left for 2 months. Literally nothing was wrong, things were perfect as usual. Then she leaves and starts distancing herself.. I'm thinking okay, she's focusing at her internship, having a good time. Though something just isn't what she was before, even when she was up there previously (she called and face-timed as much as she could and was completely affectionate with me.) So things didn't work out and we broke things off, more her than me. I'm having a hard time with the break up, being the dumpee. Her, being the dumper, is confusing... She tells me she's hurt, sad, shocked, and doesn't know what to do with herself. Though to her friends, she is fine, dandy, and still having a great time. She keeps telling me she doesn't know what she wants and all that jazz.. We talk here and there.. Its been a few days lol.. She'll ask if I've deleted our pictures and I say no, and she says she can't delete them and she cries when she looks at them. So now I'm so confused as to whats going on? So a little birdy tells me she's got a little crush up there, who happened to bring her a doughnut and hot chocolate the day after we broke up and all. This guy works up where she's interning, so thats a major bonus. :/ Though, if I go out and post pictures (nothing intended, just normal social media pictures) She'll text me about it and ask if I got with anyone or anything and gets mad when I joke about it.. Is this a sign of Grass is Greener Syndrome do you think? I've never dealt with something like this before and from what I read about GIGS, the emotional feelings seem to describe perfectly about me being the dumpee and her being the dumper..
ExpatInItaly Posted October 31, 2014 Posted October 31, 2014 Maybe she did something she feels guilty about and is now having some regrets. Whatever the reason, she broke up with you. You need to dramatically reduce your contact with her. Don't respond to questions asking if you have met other girls. It's none of her business, and she needs to understand that. Doesn't really matter if it's GIGS or not. The fact that she chose to end the relationship is a sign it wasn't as great for her as it was for you, unfortunately.
Assasda Posted October 31, 2014 Posted October 31, 2014 I personally dont believe GIGS happens for no reason. I think that there usually is something going on why people change their minds about people they are seeing. OP I think you are a doormat, and you lost some kind of passion that you had in your life, she ruled your life and you never got to do the things that you wanted to do. And now, she is still essentially ruling your life, and just keeps you hanging on. What you want to do, is get a hold of you life, and see other women. Do the things that you like. Go out and have fun
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