Redhead14 Posted October 31, 2014 Posted October 31, 2014 I didn't text her after, it's been about an hour since we both got to our homes and nothing so far. I'm thinking about texting her, but one of her problems with me was that she thought I required her to be texting me all the time. I really don't want to overdo it, especially right now after we are just trying to get over this. She felt that we were already acting like a married couple. You think it would be best to give her space and let her text me first, or to text her something? I let her know I was sorry about how things went earlier today as we were leaving. Maybe send her something like 'Hi babe I know youre probably still a little annoyed right now but Im happy I still got to see you today" No, leave it alone for a while. You both need to step back and get clear headed about all this.
losangelena Posted October 31, 2014 Posted October 31, 2014 Juanito, turn off your phone and go outside! You are investing way too much time and energy into waiting for her to "do something" and reading into things way too much. Take a step back. Whatever answers you feel you need today, trust me, you can wait until tomorrow or the next day to find them out. Deep breaths.
Tayken Posted October 31, 2014 Posted October 31, 2014 Juanito, turn off your phone and go outside! You are investing way too much time and energy into waiting for her to "do something" and reading into things way too much. Take a step back. Whatever answers you feel you need today, trust me, you can wait until tomorrow or the next day to find them out. Deep breaths. Yes....It's halloween, dress up as something more interesting
dclan Posted October 31, 2014 Posted October 31, 2014 I'm just playing it more cool. I guess even using this site as my way to cool down before I make any moves. I did tell her good morning and happy halloween, and she ended up texting me like she normally does. Telling me good morning baby and letting me know a little about her day. And I made a comment about halloween and how we didn't have any costumes and she just said 'lol ya exactly' I'm not gonna respond to that and see what she does. I'm just having trouble reading her right now. How old are you guys? You seem pretty young. Furthermore...whats your girlfriends relationship past like? any other serious relationship? Cause maybe there is a reason why she doesn't want things to be "serious".
Author juanito14 Posted October 31, 2014 Author Posted October 31, 2014 (edited) She's had a couple serious relationships before that lasted 2 plus years, the thing is the longest relationship I've ever been in was 7 months long and it was back when I was pretty young. It's not that she doesn't want this to be a serious relationship, she even said that it is still serious, it's that she doesn't want to feel like we're already married when it's only been 5 months we've been in a relationship. She did text me to saying something like 'just to let you know I wont be able to go out tonight since I'm gonna be busy so you should go find something to do too' shes gonna be hanging out with her brother and sister in law. I'm probably gonna go out with some friends. The thing was I already knew she was gonna be busy tonight before so I don't know why she felt the need to remind me again. I've just been keeping myself busy since though; went to the gym, went on a hike, played some basketball to try and take my mind off things. When she does actually text me she doesn't sound annoyed or anything, it's just that shes choosing to take a lot longer than usual to respond. Edited October 31, 2014 by juanito14
Author juanito14 Posted October 31, 2014 Author Posted October 31, 2014 (edited) I'm just wondering why this time it seems so easy for her to not be in contact with me. Usually we are good, but it doesn't even feel like we made up from the fight, more like she just gave up but wants to stay together. I Know I'm just venting my feelings on here, but still it confuses me how she can do this now whereas it's something that's never happened before and it's getting the best of me. Do you guys think it would be too much if when we are both about to go out I text her that I love her and to be safe tonight but I hope she has fun? Im talking about in another 2-3 hours. This is pretty much the longest weve gone without talking since the one day she broke up with me. I know I'm probably freaking out, which is why im coming here instead of actually texting her but does this seem normal? I know at some point today she was supposed to go pick up her dad and that time may be now. I just want to go back to how things were with me even just a month ago. I had my own life, but at the same time she was a part of it. I knew I didn't need her around but i wanted her around. I hate feeling like I'm losing my best friend but at the same time it feels like I may be pushing her away Edited October 31, 2014 by juanito14
umirano Posted October 31, 2014 Posted October 31, 2014 gaaahhh... you're driving me insane here. Just chill for 24 hrs, will you? She's with her brother. You do your own thing. She said she loves you. So just shut up about all your big problems. I ride the motorcycle. When the pavement is wet or when I'm in terrain and I feel the bicycle is sliding or otherwise moving without me having full control I'll just stop doing whatever I'm trying to do. The bike will stabilize itself. Just ease the grip on the handlebar. Let go of the brakes and center yourself on the bike. It's going to be ok, even if you end up in the bushes or on sand next to the track. What you're doing with your relation ship right now: You're already sliding, a cliff is next to the track and your looking at all the gauges and the battery power. You need to let the bike right itself. And overanalyzing and manipulating all the things you feel you can manipulate are NOT HELPING. Step back goddamnit!
Author juanito14 Posted October 31, 2014 Author Posted October 31, 2014 Thank you umirano I really needed to hear something like that right now. It's just we had already planned on hanging out tomorrow earlier this week so I was confused on how I should play it, but I'm just gonna chill out until tomorrow comes.
umirano Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 Right on. Make use of the face to face time you have with her. Sitting by yourself and analyzing her every text is not doing you any good. You can safely cut it. Face to face is where the real communication happens. If you have a bad gut feeling while face to face, you can begin to worry. Texts or frequency of texts are not relevant at this point. She probably feels you're making her your sole priority in life and her gut is telling her that's not going to end well. And it can't. You need to be happy and content without a girl. It's unsexy to be dating someone who's only source of happiness you are. Because if he finds something else or more interesting the RS is at stake. She wants you to be independent and self-sufficient to an extent.
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