is my bf still in love with his blonde ex???

[mag wink]

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hello, i started dating this gorgeous sailor about 3 monthes ago, a few weeks ago he asked me whether i had kissed or had sex with my best friend who happens to be a guy n i was shocked n said no cuz i havent, seemming this conversation was going on i started asking him about what happened with his ex gf as early on like the second day i went out with him he refered to her as the one that got away n that he had her picture in his bedroom, anyhow after asking 2 questions like what happened who broke it off he went silent with closed eyes for a moment then opened n snapped i dont want to talk about it! n i never have felt scared or uncomfortable as i did then i was so upset but tried not to show it as i was truely shocked at his tone of voice i left 5 minutes later n sobbed driving home. my question is you guys think hes still in love with her? afterall the reason he broke up was cuz he was being deployed.... he now tells me that he loves me but keeps asking me 2 dye my hair blonde, i have black hair, i wonder if she was blonde???? should i snoop in his apartement n look for the fotos cuz im dying to know what she looked like n what all the fuss is about.... what do u guys think?????

 

thanks a million

[upsetnhurt]

I think you have answered your question already. His actions dictate that he still has some emotional baggage to deal with from his past relationship. This is unfortunately yet my advice to you is to bring this up with him as a major concern and see what he says. If he blows up again.....then do you really want to be with a guy who does that? If he confirms his difficulty in getting over his ex, you will need to be very careful as in as much as he does not want to hurt you.......his action probably will as time goes on and he will never be able to fully appreciate you for who you are as he will constantly compare the two of you.

[Craig]

Originally posted by mag wink

he refered to her as the one that got away

What happened to the ones that didn't "get away."

 

Sounds like this guy isn't over his ex yet. I say don't dye your hair blonde. If someone loves you they love you the way you are not the way they think you could be. What's next, asking you to change your name to the name of the blonde ex?

 

Maybe it's time to reconsider being involved with this guy too. You had a bad reaction to his behavior and the two of you aren't really that far into a relationship. If he treats you like an object, wanting you to dye your hair blonde now, how will he treat you later on?