dcgirl Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 I dated a guy a month, things faded out. There was no contact for a month then we started hanging out again, as friends. We emailed regularly, talked a few times a week, hung out about once a week. Last week, we went to see a band and after, when we each got to our respective homes, we emailed each other at the exact same time. Different messages (nothing lovey-dovey). It's the second time it has happened. i'm weird about stuff like that. Anyway, since then...nothing. The day after the show I emailed him and nothing. Granted the email wasn't anything major, in need of a reply, but no reply hasn't been the routine. I emailed him tuesday about something else and got reply. then wednesday, he signed onto my bebo list. I know it sounds like i'm overreacting but I wonder why he's kinda pulling back. One email in a week compared 1-3 a day...that's quite a drop off. Should I just take it as another fade out? Maybe he needs space for whatever reason and I shouldn't bombard him with emails. Maybe we were hanging out too much...too close for comfort? Maybe he realized I'm still kind of into him...and it may or not be mutual. His reply this week was friendly and funny so there doesn't seem to be any tension or annoyance on his part. It's something to which there really is no answer because there are million answers. I can't read minds...you don't know the guy. I guess I'm venting. Clearly I still like and have always hoped for a second chance.
Author dcgirl Posted March 13, 2005 Author Posted March 13, 2005 If he's lost interest, why sign onto my list, which is essentially an online address book? and who loses interest in the blink of any eye? It would take a major faux pas or a fight for me to simply lose interest in a friendship that was trucking along fine. I know it's possible but a little out of left field in this instance. more than anything, im venting because i'm frustrated. i'm aware of the two possible scenarios: he's pulling away because he's suddenly decided he doesn't want to be friends at all or because he needs space for whatever reason (he still likes me or not; he senses I still like him; he's seeing someone, etc). I've read a ton of posts here from people who have initiated NC for all of these reasons. that's why NC is frustrating: it could be about anything or nothing. argghh.
CurvyGurl Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 He's not contacted you, not emailed, not called. *shrugs* What other explanation are you looking for ? If men are interested they make it known. Especially if you dated him for a while and he stopped calling and emailing.
Author dcgirl Posted March 13, 2005 Author Posted March 13, 2005 just got an email from him. ugghhh...i'm so stressed out with school right that every little molehill becomes mountain. the pms isn't helping. don't think curvygirl that i wasn't acknowledging your position. it was just as likely the case as the opposite. we're all striving to read people when we should just roll with whatever happens...stop picking things apart, stop overanalyzing, stop jumping to conclusions. really, it gets us no closer to the truth and reality of a situation. easier said than done, right guys?
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