HenryJames Posted October 30, 2014 Posted October 30, 2014 Hey folks! Just a quick question here.. I'm in a LDR with a girl from another country and we've set the date to meet. We like each other a lot, she even told me she loves me. But I have some things that makes me worry and I'm not sure whether I should ignore them or not. After a long time, I have serious feelings for someone and I never thought I would like someone that I never met..I never imagined this would happen and this is my first time. I don't love her as I haven't met her but I'm sure I have strong feelings for her. She told me I'm her first SO and she never liked anyone before (that, I find hard to believe). lately, everything's been going great. Yesterday night, we were talking and she asked me " Is it possible to like someone and not realize it? ". I asked her why but she didn't answer, she just said " I'm curious, that's all" and changed the topic. Does this mean anything? This made me worry. I really don't want to let go of her..it's quite difficult for me to develop feelings for someone. I know the consequences and risks of liking someone you've never met.
justwhoiam Posted October 31, 2014 Posted October 31, 2014 Hi HenryJames and welcome to the forum. 1. Is English her native language? 2. It'd be interesting to know what you were talking about before she asked that question, to see if it might be related to something... 3. I might have some ideas, but I'd prefer to wait for answers 1 & 2. 1
Author HenryJames Posted October 31, 2014 Author Posted October 31, 2014 Hi HenryJames and welcome to the forum. 1. Is English her native language? 2. It'd be interesting to know what you were talking about before she asked that question, to see if it might be related to something... 3. I might have some ideas, but I'd prefer to wait for answers 1 & 2. 1. No, English isn't her native language but she's fluent in English as she lives in an English speaking country. 2. We weren't talking anything related to that. We were just talking about our day. That was completely out of the blue.
justwhoiam Posted October 31, 2014 Posted October 31, 2014 (edited) 1. No, English isn't her native language but she's fluent in English as she lives in an English speaking country. Ok. No matter how good you're at it, there are times when it's just difficult to express what you mean or think in a different language. I know for a fact, as English is not my native language either. 2. We weren't talking anything related to that. We were just talking about our day. That was completely out of the blue. That's not so unusual for females, to say things that are apparently out of the blue... Anyway, my wild guesses are that the question was either referred to her liking you or you liking someone else. It might be about her liking you, as she could feel that it all happened quite suddenly, or she doesn't know exactly why she likes you so much or she didn't like you like now at first. As you can see, there are several options, but none of them is negative in itself. If it were about you liking someone else, and you don't know it, well, she's wondering if there might be someone you do like, but you're not paying attention to that. But I guess your first thought was: maybe she's thinking of someone else she knows and wondering if she likes him without being aware of that. For some reason, that wouldn't be my first thought. Obviously, it's not too late to ask her about that. You can bring that up, like: You know, the other day you said something, [her question], and I was wondering what was on your mind when you asked that. Were you referring to me, you, us or someone else? And then you can know more about it. Edited October 31, 2014 by justwhoiam
Author HenryJames Posted November 22, 2014 Author Posted November 22, 2014 Hi folks, I'm quite new with relationships and don't have much experience regarding relationships, especially LDR. I'm in a relationship since couple of months and we really like each other. I'm her first bf and she's my first gf. We try to be open with each other. Today, she told me something about her that left me baffled and confused and I'm hoping to get some answers here. Last month, she told me one of her classmate looks similar to me and she followed him for a few minutes. I didn't take it seriously and laughed. Today she mentioned about him again and she told me she stalked him, found his name and everything and she spent a while searching him on facebook. I asked her if she's interested in him and she said no. Why would she stalk him like this and why is she telling me all this? Could she be interested in him? She said it's fun and was expecting me to laugh about her behavior but I got upset. Am I over-analyzing here? Thank you.
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