KB_138 Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 Hi all, So I'm approaching the 6 month mark post breakup. I haven't seen my ex girlfriend in about 5 months and as I'm definitely not completely over it I do feel I have made tremendous improvement. A friend of mine is throwing a Halloween part this weekend and he has invited me as well as my ex. Its been a while since I've seen this group of friends since the breakup and I miss them a lot. I feel now that I'll be OK to see her again. Not saying it wont be a little tough but I don't want to sit in the dark anymore. I want to be myself again and have some fun. I believe I'm ready to do it. Her and I don't have any bad blood or anything so there will not be any chance of arguments or any crap like that. Just looking for someone encouraging words or advice you may have to give me that extra boost to go and enjoy myself. Thanks for reading and appreciate everyone's opinions. Cheers
SoThatHappened Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 The fact that you start a thread about it tells me that you still have feelings. You even mentioned that you're "definitely not completely over it." I'm not one for hiding, but if you do attend the party, you MUST be prepared to see her with someone else. If you can handle that, great. If not, I wouldn't do that to myself and set me back another peg in the healing process. That's just me though.
Author KB_138 Posted October 29, 2014 Author Posted October 29, 2014 You're definitely right. I've went over this in my head and I am prepared for that possibility. Are there still feelings... Yes. However they're not the same as they use to be. Worse comes to worst I can leave earlier. But I need to get out there. Thanks for your thoughts.
kbrew Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 Me personally, I would not go unless im feeling 110% amazing! If I have any ounce of doubt in my mind its going to be a **** night, it will be a **** night. If your feeling revved, go to a pre party, or meet with friends, go out. Go to the party but keep it brief! Turn up, chat to everyone, have abit of fun, say a few words to your ex, MOVE ON. Dont make this your destination, you'll only impose preformed notions of whats going to happen and disappoint yourself. Seriously! You will show her you dont give a ****, show you have a better life outside of her circle, (ie show your better) and still get to meet up with your mates. Good luck!
Author KB_138 Posted November 1, 2014 Author Posted November 1, 2014 Well, I went to the party. I arrived prior to her showing up. I gotta admit as people started to roll in I started getting nervous and wonder if this was a mistake. Then, she shows. We are both chatting amongst our circles of friends and catch eyes a couple of times. Basically wondering who's gonna say hello first. She goes to the kitchen and I say screw it. I go to grab a drink and we finally speak. A simple hug with "its nice to see you, great costume, and even share a quick story from our past (had to do with the costume). I immediately felt better. We then parted ways back to our groups of friends and I could enjoy the rest of my evening. Not constantly looking at her through the crowd, I actually laughed with my friends. I'm happy how it went and I actually feel like I'm making some sort of progress for once. Thanks for reading and your feedback. This site has been a great help. Cheers
ThorntonMelon Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 Good for you. You can handle something I certainly couldn't have. Great job by you!!!
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