jp79 Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 I'm really confused! I am originally from Canada, but go to university in England. As luck would have it, one of my room mates is a Canadian girl. When I first met her, I thought she was cute, but quickly put her out of my mind when I found out she was seeing someone. She told me she had broken up with someone a few months before with whom she had been dating for a long time. A few months after that breakup, she started going out with someone else. The long distance thing didn't work for her, and she broke up with boyfriend #2, only to go back to longterm boyfriend #1. Again, when I found this out, I made sure to keep a distance between her and myself. The last couple of months I sense a complete change in our relationship. While I was able to keep a distance at first, I find myself thinking more and more about her. I love spending time with her, and I really think I'm falling for her. It was completely unplanned and not what I wanted .... but that's how these things happen, right? To make things more difficult, she has started to pay more attention to me. I'm really bad at deciphering women (I'm so dense!) but even I can't help but think she's developed genuine feelings for me too. Yes, it could be my own feelings confusing me into thinking she feels the same way.... but I don't think so. It's the boyfriend thing that really messes it all up. Ordinarily, I wouldn't dream of pursuing a woman who was seeing someone else. But from our conversations, I get the sense that she's not happy, that the problems they were having before their first breakup are still there. She's told me she loves him, but she isn't sure if he really loves her. She drops so many hints that she's interested in me, and yet she's still seeing this guy..... Then again, they're only "seeing" each other over the phone/internet. I don't want to lose her, if I have any chance at all. She really makes me feel amazing. It doesn't sound like her relationship with her boyfriend is going anywhere... He doesn't even sound like a boyfriend right now. But who knows? Maybe they'll sort things out. It's just I get the feeling she got back together with him because the breakup hurt too much and she didn't want to deal with the feelings. I don't know. Does any of this make sense? I guess my question is, what should I do? Should I go on being the good friend? Should I tell her how I feel (without any expectations of her to reciprocate)?
sami Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 That may help you find out whether she is with you or with him. Don't rush things.
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