Elyna Posted October 29, 2014 Share Posted October 29, 2014 hi everyone! I found this site and hopefully someone can help me to understand why my ex bf agreed to meet me. The story of us.. we broke up 2 months ago with a horrible fight, anger, betrayal and other bad feelings involved. Both ways, but I was still trying to fix something but he said he wants to move on and the best for it if we dont ekep contacting. Well, I didnt manage that, the moment we broke up my feelings only grew stronger, I lived in a memories of both - good and bad times, i felt like its so wrong to be apart, the feeling was so strong and i could not keep my hands away my phone. But in fact, he always responded...sometimes kindly, that he thinks of me.. loads of compliments and how good person i am and how bad he was.. well, it gave me a hope of course, i asked non-stop for 4 weeks to meet, he always said- its not the time yet to meet. So I gave up. Until he contacted me on my bday after a month or less of silence. We talked, I wanted to meet, he agreed, then I canceled,cause i felt like moving on. But I could feel that maybe he is not moving on, since he could also NEVER answer my messages and agree to meet, if he wanted to move on. Why would someone do that? So finally we decided to meet. He told me not to bring up past discussions and stuff. He said, its just to see each other and feel better. What can I expect??? this person is seriously confusing me. I do want to see him, I might get dumped for a second time...But i feel like i need to see him. Link to post Share on other sites
EuTuBrute Posted October 30, 2014 Share Posted October 30, 2014 You are conflicting. You wouldn't be posting here if you didn't want to see him. Here is my advise. Move on. I got a second chance with an ex. It ended in a disaster. You want the happy times that you had. You want to forget about the bad. It will end up like the first time 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Elyna Posted October 30, 2014 Author Share Posted October 30, 2014 Oh i just saw there is another thread for second chances.. yes, the fact is, i do want to see him. People here are quick to say move on, but sometimes moving on is impossible when it feels like unfinished business. Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted October 30, 2014 Share Posted October 30, 2014 What business is there to finish? You two are ex's and are playing each other instead of playing the field. There's a reason people say to "move on" and it's because they've been in your position. Maybe you should heed that advice rather than waste more months of your life in limbo with this guy. You are just confusing as he is. Ask to meet, ask to meet, ask to meet... he asks to meet... you cancel. Stop it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Elyna Posted October 30, 2014 Author Share Posted October 30, 2014 Thats right, we both are confused and I finally decided, I need to meet him. I know, my life is miserable without him but maybe i got the chance to see that my feelings changed or say a nice goodbye or anything. I have no idea if he really moved on and we will have only a friendly chat and move on. But that is what i want. So many people here dealing with anger after break up. In last relations i dealt with it for a year! what a lost time of my life! Getting over things is a horrible time, more horrible then relationship itself was. Looking into eyes of a person who broke me can be painful, can be also blessing to deal with it straight away. We had long distance relations, so its no possibility to meet under some circumstances, in the future. Even those people walk out, life is to short to dream of them for years afterwards and try to move on. My question is more about : why would you agree to meet your ex only after 2 months? Thats a sign he wants to get back? Being polite? Seriously, all these break -up games, move on or whatever makes me crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
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