BluEyeL Posted October 30, 2014 Posted October 30, 2014 I'm not going to ignore the hesitation I picked up on on the last date and yesterday/today though.. No more alcohol for me! Good call! But let people come into their feelings in their own time. Yes, maybe there was hesitation, but you play it cool, stay in the moment and have no expectations for this. Is too early to worry about anything. Don't think about anything beyond the moment you are in. When I read all the dating books/advice when they said "if he's not calling you every day and doing X,y,z immediately, he's not into you", I always wondered...how can he be into me right away? It got to take time to build a bond. Now, one can't wait forever for a guy to make a move forward, but as long as it is going forward, my latest rule was to give the man about 4 months to make me his GF. No more, but don't overreact before that. 2
Author Rachelmcandrew Posted October 30, 2014 Author Posted October 30, 2014 Good call! But let people come into their feelings in their own time. Yes, maybe there was hesitation, but you play it cool, stay in the moment and have no expectations for this. Is too early to worry about anything. Don't think about anything beyond the moment you are in. When I read all the dating books/advice when they said "if he's not calling you every day and doing X,y,z immediately, he's not into you", I always wondered...how can he be into me right away? It got to take time to build a bond. Now, one can't wait forever for a guy to make a move forward, but as long as it is going forward, my latest rule was to give the man about 4 months to make me his GF. No more, but don't overreact before that. Exactly! The only men who are like head over heels doing XYZ immediately, are the ones who are sold on a fantasy of us, not who we really are. It's actually a good thing when a guy takes a little longer to develop feelings because you know they're real. 4 months sounds reasonable I'm going to really try to stay in the moment and not jump too far ahead. I was playing it so cool and being so careful on the first 2 dates, and left with no expectations. I'm going to do the same on the next date. 3
BluEyeL Posted October 30, 2014 Posted October 30, 2014 Exactly! The only men who are like head over heels doing XYZ immediately, are the ones who are sold on a fantasy of us, not who we really are. It's actually a good thing when a guy takes a little longer to develop feelings because you know they're real. 4 months sounds reasonable I'm going to really try to stay in the moment and not jump too far ahead. I was playing it so cool and being so careful on the first 2 dates, and left with no expectations. I'm going to do the same on the next date. Agreed on slower burn is more real. Good luck, hope it works out. Keep us posted. 1
Gaeta Posted October 30, 2014 Posted October 30, 2014 panic over guys, he got back to me and suggested Saturday instead. Woohoo !!! After your first call he realized what an idiot he was for not counter offering something. 1
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