mrcanada Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 This is my first post on LS, reading through other threads has helped me much and I've decided to share my story of hopes of getting some advice. I stared dating her about 2 years ago, we were insanely in love and very compatible. Neither of us had ever felt this way before, everything was perfect only problem is, she lives half way across the world. But we always felt like we were "the one" for each other and talked about marriage and children up until the very end. We were exclusive until this February then we started fighting and the loneliness of this situation got to both of us but were both completely intent on being together once I finished my studies and could move to her country. So we decided to do an open relationship given that we were always honest to each other about who we were seeing, etc. It was working fine, we still talked everyday and made plans for our future,etc. I slept with a few girls but absolutely nothing serious which I told her about. I know she was seeing one guy in particular and I was okay with that because she always told me she wasn't that into him and she was only passing time until she could be with me. Fast forward to two weeks ago, the guy she was seeing made his instagram public and it turns out things seemed more serious than she had made them out to be and I also realized she had told me a few lies. I was crushed. In her defensive I did get slightly jealous when she would bring him up so she was trying not to hurt me. She told me I would be have a happier life without her in it and I said I was done with her, I could tell how ashamed and embarrassed she was about her actions. So I'm not sure if that makes me the dumper or the dumpee?? Anyway I said I a lot of things I regret when I found out that I apologized for today and told her I wished her the best and that I'd always love her and she said the same and we said our good byes. I am starting no contact today and I feel like she should be the one to reach out to me and apologize? I've done no contact twice with her in the past after serious fights and she has always come back after about three weeks but it has never been a fight like this and I'm worried she might just focus on the other guy. I'm don't think I'm necessarily hoping to reconcile, but she is flying to my side of the world for the holidays, we've been so excited and counting down for months, I'm just hoping to see her even if it is to say goodbye. Thank you everyone for reading and replies.
Dontfindme Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 I really don't think seeing her is a good idea. You should stick to NC. Also - it's best not to expect apologies or, -really- anything when relationships end; most often it isn't satisfactory, and leaves you wanting more.
tikay00 Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 She left you for another guy, and you want her back? Marinate on that for a minute.
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