jn3000 Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 I've dated people in the same building in my 20's, but decided not to after that because I figured it was best to keep work and dating separate so if one wasn't going well I could throw myself into the other. Well, one thing I've found is that it is awkward resisting advances of women at work, or their flirtation. It's expected that I flirt back. Frankly, while it is risky and awkward if it doesn't work out, I change jobs every 2 years anyways, and I'm financially well off and in my early thirties with a good high paying career and a lo of assets. I can afford to risk it, and frankly, after a recent health scare, I wonder if I've been too focused on the safe and responsible route. Don't get me wrong, I've dated a lot, but at work there are so much better prospects and I already know what they are like. Plus it makes the day interesting ;-)
Curious-One Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 Its funny i just posted the problem i am having at work today http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/499339-i-seriously-dont-understand-girls Its actually very annoying in the real world i meet a girl dont think about it much just go for the number. If i get rejected whatever never will see her again if i do get the number i try calling her might still get rejected or might actually get a date. At work its so tricky for a guy because there are all these signs we have to read and if you are wrong you are that guy...or if the girl is not cool she might even say something to HR so i hate HATE even talking to girls at work. Then also you got this girl who i pretty much ignored all signs and now i am pretty sure she is pissed at me. Honestly in my opinion its not even worth it because 95% chance it wont work out and will be awkward. I got my first gf from my first job and got crushed... we dated for a while broke up nicely but then she started dating another co worker and they would actually make out like few feet from me. I told my self after that i would never go for girls at work but its been easier said then done.
Mentos Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 Speaking from experience.....don't date coworkers (as 90% of the time it won't end well).
Tik Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 It's not the girl at work but your rep. Lose your rep and rep can spread especially if you work in an industry that is small and the girl ends up being vengeful. There are 8 billion people of which so many are woman. Surely else where to look is better than where your career is based even if you think you're in a good spot and able to take it.
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 I dated one guy from work but I left that company years before we split. I dated lots of guys from a bar I used to go to. It's a bar so I didn't think it was that bad to date a lot of people. I still kept a good reputation.
Redhead14 Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 (edited) I've dated people in the same building in my 20's, but decided not to after that because I figured it was best to keep work and dating separate so if one wasn't going well I could throw myself into the other. Well, one thing I've found is that it is awkward resisting advances of women at work, or their flirtation. It's expected that I flirt back. Frankly, while it is risky and awkward if it doesn't work out, I change jobs every 2 years anyways, and I'm financially well off and in my early thirties with a good high paying career and a lo of assets. I can afford to risk it, and frankly, after a recent health scare, I wonder if I've been too focused on the safe and responsible route. Don't get me wrong, I've dated a lot, but at work there are so much better prospects and I already know what they are like. Plus it makes the day interesting ;-) I wouldn't/don't date work associates. It gets complicated. It should not be awkward to resist advances of women at work. Maintain a professional demeanor. If they are relentless, there is the question of workplace harrassment. I have dated 3 men from a bar/restaurant I frequent in the early evenings for dinner. I treat them with respect and they treat me with respect. We didn't go there on "dates" though. We took it outside of there as often as possible so as not to have people draw conclusions about our status. I am still seeing one of them. I was upfront and honest with the others about my interest or lack of at some point in them and we are still friendly with each other when we see other there. There are other women/men who have dated each other now and again. No one as far as I know thought/or thinks twice about it. It's dating. Edited October 29, 2014 by Redhead14
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