jn3000 Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 (edited) Sent her an email through company email making a joke, with the hopes that she would start coming over to talk to me. She starts stopping by every day after that to talk/flirt with me (two days until the weekend). Asks me how old I am, how old I think SHE is, tells me she has no one here tying her down, etc. She was really nervous each time, but her body language eventually opened up with legs and body turned toward me, laughing at all my jokes, etc. After the first chat, we start to make and hold eye contact in the hallway whenever we see each other since then. So I decide to start going by her desk to ask her if she's too busy for a stroll around the block, etc. She said she always has time for ME. We are flirting heavily on the walk, clearly into each other. A few hours after the walk she walks by my desk and makes eye contact, raising and dropping her eye brows in a flirtatious way (I reciprocated). Then next day I go and ask her for a walk, she declined with a stern no I'm good thanks. I was shocked. To be fair, she was sort of busy, but not with anything super important, just taking some small training to further her career. What's weird though is ever since she has been walking by and checking me out hard. Last two days I've made eye contact with her again and each time she was quick to say "hey" in a way that is flirty/I'm sorry for biting your head off/let's start talking again kind of way. She's holding eye contact with me again. I'm not sure what is going on, is she still into me or what? I get the feeling she is letting me know she is still interested, but I kind of want to let her come talk to me again first. Not so much because of fear of rejection, so much as because we work together. I know I shouldn't be doing this with a colleague, but I've been fighting her off for over a year, and she has always let me know since day 1 that she was interested. Well I was in a relationship at the time. Not sure if she knows that. Plus I usually don't get involved with colleagues. But she has grown on me.... Edited October 29, 2014 by jn3000
Assasda Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 I think youre looking for a little ego stroke here, because you know she's into you. But, I dont think this'll last. You need to go out with her, have fun
Author jn3000 Posted October 29, 2014 Author Posted October 29, 2014 (edited) I think youre looking for a little ego stroke here, because you know she's into you. But, I dont think this'll last. You need to go out with her, have fun Believe me I'm not. I thought she was into me, maybe even really into me and still might be, but the jaded response when I asked her to walk with me the second time threw me off. And now shes signaling again or just being friendly? Was this a hard to get ploy to make me more interested? I forgot to mention, the day she blew me off she saw some other girl who I not only don't interact with but can't stand wave at me flirtatiously hours earlier. I didn't even wave back, though she couldn't see that. And the first day after she blew me off she walked by and sneakily played with her left ear with her right hand so she could turn her head and look at me. She looked at me for a long time, almost nervously assessing for effect. Makes me think she is playing hard to get. Believe me, it was no coincidence, it was blatantly obvious the ear play was a ploy to turn her head, and she never did that to me before. Then the weekend after all this happened, first time I made eye contact with.her again, she was quick to blurt out "hey" and it didn't sound smooth, as if she had been waiting for me to make eye contact for a while so she could say it and it might be her only chance, so get it out quick, smooth or not. Maybe it was the wave, or playing hard to get. Who knows. But I do believe she was interested before and is again now, but not entirely sure now. I'm curious, do you think it wont last because it's purely a sexual attraction? Edited October 29, 2014 by jn3000
Redhead14 Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 Sent her an email through company email making a joke, with the hopes that she would start coming over to talk to me. She starts stopping by every day after that to talk/flirt with me (two days until the weekend). Asks me how old I am, how old I think SHE is, tells me she has no one here tying her down, etc. She was really nervous each time, but her body language eventually opened up with legs and body turned toward me, laughing at all my jokes, etc. After the first chat, we start to make and hold eye contact in the hallway whenever we see each other since then. So I decide to start going by her desk to ask her if she's too busy for a stroll around the block, etc. She said she always has time for ME. We are flirting heavily on the walk, clearly into each other. A few hours after the walk she walks by my desk and makes eye contact, raising and dropping her eye brows in a flirtatious way (I reciprocated). Then next day I go and ask her for a walk, she declined with a stern no I'm good thanks. I was shocked. To be fair, she was sort of busy, but not with anything super important, just taking some small training to further her career. What's weird though is ever since she has been walking by and checking me out hard. Last two days I've made eye contact with her again and each time she was quick to say "hey" in a way that is flirty/I'm sorry for biting your head off/let's start talking again kind of way. She's holding eye contact with me again. I'm not sure what is going on, is she still into me or what? I get the feeling she is letting me know she is still interested, but I kind of want to let her come talk to me again first. Not so much because of fear of rejection, so much as because we work together. I know I shouldn't be doing this with a colleague, but I've been fighting her off for over a year, and she has always let me know since day 1 that she was interested. Well I was in a relationship at the time. Not sure if she knows that. Plus I usually don't get involved with colleagues. But she has grown on me.... Ask her out Period.
Author jn3000 Posted November 8, 2014 Author Posted November 8, 2014 (edited) So, she was apparently playing hard to get. -She went cold for a while and when I didn't engage her again she started engaging me again, escalating slowly until I went after her again, culminating in me getting her number, her getting mad at me initially because I was joking about her having to earn time out with me, which she got pissed off about, but I dropped it and asked her out, she agreed to to go out, enthusiastically at that. -She always texted back right away, but after she agreed to go out, I gave her the date and time (purposely asked her out for the activity without giving her date and time info first so as to make sure she was interested outside of scheduling conflicts) and for some reason after I gave her the date and time info a few minutes later, she went silent, she waited until the next morning when I got to work to send me a vague text just saying "I can't". -After that, she went cold the day after agreeing to go out. Then I pulled back again and the same pattern repeated as when we first started talking/flirting, she escalated until we started talking again. Trying to engage me in conversation by walking by my desk and asking me how goes it, but not stopping, as if she was trying to get me to text her. I would see her checking me out just like when she went cold before, but she would try to look away before I noticed. She did the exact same thing last time she played cold. -So I texted her three days later, asking her if she was going to keep playing tennis or make a counter offer. She pretended to not know what I was talking about in regards to tennis and was like, "Tennis"? then she said, no counter offer, I'm sorry. -I was like, "Did something change?" " Well, you can't say I didn't invite you out." She just replies, thank anyways. Never answered my question as to what changed. WTF? Part of me wants to think this is a blow off, but last time I thought she was blowing me off by declining to talk with me/walk with me, saying she wasn't interested, it turned out she was playing hard to get and came back after me to get me talking to her again, which is how I ended up getting her number and asking her out. Is she trying to game me or really just not interested anymore? Any guess as to why? Edited November 8, 2014 by jn3000
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