Evening Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Seems like I am coming from out of the space, but how soon to you really call yourself someone's GF or BF. Like if I would been going out with a guy for 2-3 times, is it normal that on a forth date he would ask me to become his gf? My friends are all different. I mean when the relationship is really really certain, they announce it as they BF and GF. Please share your views. Thanks
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 There are no clocks or calendars for this stuff. The labels aren't as important as the actions. You have the discussion when you are both comfortable, except in HS when it's almost the 1st Q.
slizl Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I have said this on a bunch of threads before. I am 35 and when I meet a quality woman (one that has the potential of being a future wife), I lock them down pretty quickly (probably within 4-5 dates). Good women are hard to come by, and if you don't lock them down early, someone else will. 3
Author Evening Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 Beautifully said, S! Please lock me ... :D:D
katinlc Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 I'm pretty green when it comes to dating, so I didn't know the protocol. My current bf and I had a discussion and agreed to exclusivity a couple weeks after we starting seeing each other regularly. Then a week or two later he asked me if I wanted to make it official. Which meant we were officially bf/gf. I think timewise it is whatever feels right. We were talking everyday and seeing each other pretty regularly and so we were acting like bf/gf so it seemed like the natural progression and was about a month after our first date.
Underthebodhitree Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 I'm trying to remember - I don't think anyone has ever come out and asked me to be his girlfriend. And I'm glad, because that seems kind of cheesy to me. I guess it's just been assumed given the amount of time we spend together. It happens at different rates. I think when it goes from asking for dates to knowing that free evenings will be spent together, etc is a good sign. Daily or close to daily calls or texts or whatever to check in. And if you feel comfortable introducing your boyfriend/girlfriend as your boyfriend/girlfriend in their presence (instead of choking on the words because you're not sure that they would agree) then that's a good sign, too lol. 1
Assasda Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 2-3 times is way too early. You know nothing about that person at that time. I say 6 months to be BF/GF
Woggle Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 Over the years I developed very good instincts so when I met the woman I am currently with I knew she was the real deal. That is when I asked her to be exclusive.
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