Markov23 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I've been dating this wonderful woman for 2 Months. We make a great great couple. I love her so much. She love me too. We are like best friends and all that. Here's the killer. She said she's not attracted to me physically but she said my personality is a 10+. WTF does that mean? I mean it hurts so much! Everyone wants to be physically attractive to those partner. The sex is great. But after she said that i was partially destroyed. I believe I've got a wonderful body. I train heavy weights 5 to 6 times a week. I have a good career. I'm a gentleman and an alpha male at the same time, I enjoy cooking and cleaning I don't wanna leave her. She makes me so happy. What did she mean by that? God it's being repeated in my ****ing head!
Evening Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Relax. I know its wrong to say to you do not take this personally, but do not take it. Why you started talking about this at the first place? Did she just tell you that out of blue? Maybe she is just finding ways to tell you something else. I do not know. Maybe the two of you should have a talk. Best of luck.
Author Markov23 Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 Relax. I know its wrong to say to you do not take this personally, but do not take it. Why you started talking about this at the first place? Did she just tell you that out of blue? Maybe she is just finding ways to tell you something else. I do not know. Maybe the two of you should have a talk. Best of luck. It was in the beginning when we first started being close friends before dating when she said your not my type but I'm attracted to your personality. My ego was hurt. She said it again "your not my type at all, ya your nice and have good features but not the type id fall head over heels for".
Author Markov23 Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 Let me guess...you 2 just started having sex? The sex is great to be honest. She gets her orgasms and I make sure of that. I have delayed ejaculation haha lol I went at it for 3 hours almost once. Just saying.
sid3 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Seems pretty clear from what you've shared that she finds your personality ideal but physically you're not what she wants. Sounds pretty shytty to me.
Author Markov23 Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 Seems pretty clear from what you've shared that she finds your personality ideal but physically you're not what she wants. Sounds pretty shytty to me. It's ****ty as ****! How can I deal with this? We are like best friends and I love her a lot. I do. I mean I'm an airforce pilot. If tom cruise can pull it off can't it? Ahaha but still I feel bad ya know. I got a big cut body and all.
so gutted Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 It hurts but seems like she is ticking boxes with you, like your good on paper but not enough or what she wants. Sorry - its painful.
Author Markov23 Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 It hurts but seems like she is ticking boxes with you, like your good on paper but not enough or what she wants. Sorry - its painful. It is painful. Her ex she talks about was ugly I'm not gonna lie.
Diezel Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Start telling her that her ass looks fat and if there are jeans that can hide her muffin top... see how she likes it. I keed, I keed.
Hope Shimmers Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 It was in the beginning when we first started being close friends before dating when she said your not my type but I'm attracted to your personality. My ego was hurt. She said it again "your not my type at all, ya your nice and have good features but not the type id fall head over heels for". This is not the same thing at all as saying she isn't physically attracted to YOU. "You're not my type" just means that you are not the type she initially had in her head that she would fall "in love with". I had a "type" too, once (almost everyone does) but found out that there is a lot more to physical attraction than having someone be a certain type. I ended up loving several men who were not my "type" but I found them very physically attractive. 1
slizl Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 The sex is great to be honest. She gets her orgasms and I make sure of that. I have delayed ejaculation haha lol I went at it for 3 hours almost once. Just saying. Just because you lasted for three hours doesn't mean that she thinks you have great sex. I would be willing to bet that 99% of women would not want to have sex for longer than 30 minutes, let alone 3 hours. How are you so sure she gets her orgasms? Of course you think the sex is great, you are the guy. Maybe ask her what she likes in bed and go from there....
ExpatInItaly Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Ouch. It means the physical chemistry is lacking for her. Try not to take it personally, hard as that is. I think she's getting ready to jump ship, to be honest. Talk to her. Find out if there's something specific that isn't working for her. And as a woman, I can tell you that 3-hour sex is not necessarily an awesome thing. That can be exhausting and physically uncomfortable. Have you actually talked about the quality of the sex with her?
Jules Dash Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Ouch. It means the physical chemistry is lacking for her. Try not to take it personally, hard as that is. I think she's getting ready to jump ship, to be honest. Talk to her. Find out if there's something specific that isn't working for her. And as a woman, I can tell you that 3-hour sex is not necessarily an awesome thing. That can be exhausting and physically uncomfortable. Have you actually talked about the quality of the sex with her? In the beginning, 3 hours of sex is awesome but after the new smell of the relationship runs out, 30 minutes is more than enough. 1
spiderowl Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Attraction can be heavily influenced by personal scent. Some people smell wonderful and others smell (well, alien?). This is nothing to do with hygiene or anything else but probably some primitive mechanism that tells us who are are physically suited to. There have been times when I've really liked a guy's personality, he's not bad looking at all, but smells wrong to me. It really can come down to that level of personal chemistry. 1
Redhead14 Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 I've been dating this wonderful woman for 2 Months. We make a great great couple. I love her so much. She love me too. We are like best friends and all that. Here's the killer. She said she's not attracted to me physically but she said my personality is a 10+. WTF does that mean? I mean it hurts so much! Everyone wants to be physically attractive to those partner. The sex is great. But after she said that i was partially destroyed. I believe I've got a wonderful body. I train heavy weights 5 to 6 times a week. I have a good career. I'm a gentleman and an alpha male at the same time, I enjoy cooking and cleaning I don't wanna leave her. She makes me so happy. What did she mean by that? God it's being repeated in my ****ing head! IF she was being honest, she was painfully so. That is disrespectful. However, I'm not convinced she was totally honest. She was attracted enough to you to sleep with you. Unless she is in the habit of just sleeping with men for the sake of sleeping with them, there may be more to it . . . meaning the experience with you was not quite right for her. If she's going to the place of mentioning that the physical aspect is an issue for her, she owes you more specifics out of fairness to you. If it was painful for some reason, she should explain that or if the sessions are too long. That is something that is not insulting . . . it is what it is and perhaps it can be worked out. She should be more specific. If she's saying she's not attracted to you plain and simply and still sleeps with you, she's compromising herself. That's not a good quality in a woman.
Toodaloo Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 3 hours... Wow... I hope lube was involved... I think I would have had to stop for a cup of tea half way through... I digress. Markov she has said you are not her normal type that is not a bad thing as her normal type clearly hasn't worked out well so far has it? "Normal type" and "the one for me" are not the same thing... Women in general do not view "looks" the way men do. You could be the most dog ugly chap on the planet but to her you would be better looking than Brad Pitt... When I start dating again I am steering clear of my normal type on purpose... I want someone different and unique and special. 1
Author Markov23 Posted October 29, 2014 Author Posted October 29, 2014 3 hours... Wow... I hope lube was involved... I think I would have had to stop for a cup of tea half way through... I digress. Markov she has said you are not her normal type that is not a bad thing as her normal type clearly hasn't worked out well so far has it? "Normal type" and "the one for me" are not the same thing... Women in general do not view "looks" the way men do. You could be the most dog ugly chap on the planet but to her you would be better looking than Brad Pitt... When I start dating again I am steering clear of my normal type on purpose... I want someone different and unique and special. That's exactly how she describes me. Very unique. Saying we connect at a stronger deeper level.
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