Evening Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I am sure that there are man and woman who are commitment phobes. Does commitment phoebes lose interest when thing are becoming more serious? I met one guy, I really like him and he said he liked me and we are like the same, because we both are commitment phoebes. So right now, he does not talk to me after we had this "I wish you could do that" type of talk. I mean for my whole life I never felt that much connected as I am feeling with him. That should be a red flag? My emotions go crazy. I just want to be with me. Its strange because I am actually a non relationship tolerate girl, I attract men who also do not like relationships and the same time I can develop feelings for them quite quickly and easily. Any advices?
OwMyEyeball Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I wouldn't chalk it down more to rising aversion than loss of interest. It's not that they become less attracted, but that they become more repelled (not by the partner, but by internal struggles triggered by the relationship) 'Commitment phobia' is better understood as a fear of intimacy, which can be boiled down further to a fear of rejection. There are different ways of getting through that. Therapy. Spirituality. Even bravery; going against your feelings and experiencing the truth of the matter. Some people just take it as part of who they are and prefer to "date around" than involve themselves in serious relationships. Others have no genuine interest in serious relationships. It's not that they're "afraid" but that they're simply not interested in that level of intimacy. 1
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