Seducer11 Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 Dear readers; 5 years ago i have been truly in love..More in love than i've ever felt.I was the happiest person back then.But after 9 months she broke it off due to misunderstanding.I was so heart broken that i thought life is meaningless without her.I've tried to get her back but somehow failed to do so.She's the only girl tat i've ever wanted in this world."If i'd lost everything i've worked for in life but still have her,i would feel the richest man alive.." Well tats how i felt.But now(2005) i've found someone new and she's the girl who is really commited in love as welll as in me.She was nice, polite, caring and loving.But after a couple of months she changed alot.She took everything for granted.Her attitude towards me changed too.Now she's always mad without any reason, she's self centered, persuasive and she likes to insult on everyone even her own parents.These attitude is wat makes my feeling towards her change.It changes from loves towards hatered.I've tried explaining to her polietly but she refused to listen or change.And at this point the girl tat i've used to love suddenly call and without expectation we got back together.The girl tat i've ever wanted..The problem is i dunno how to explained to my 2005 g.f.Its hard for me to explain tat i don't have any feelings anymore towards her.I did told her tat i dislike her attitude and i'm letting her go but she refused and she was crying all over the phone.It makes me sad and guilty to know or hear tat she cried.But wat can i do? U can't be with someone out of pittiness n u certinely can't be with someone who u don't even love anymore.I'm afraid tat she might do stupid things (for eg commit suicide).After all she is immature..To be frankly honest,i've never had any intention for playing her..I was in love with her untill her attitude changed.Ohh yeah i've told her tat i need some space and time to worked it out and that i hope she would not bother me for awhile until i've decided everything.But to no vail her attitude of self centered and persuasive is still there.She called me after an hour and keeps on texting me.Even at this point she dosen't wanna change her attitude. So pls help me solve this thing as i am certinely confused..I don't know wat to do..The girl tat i've been waiting for so long is right there in front of me and at the same point another girl tat i'm with dosen't wanna let go.
Pocky Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 Block her on IM. Don't answer her phone calls and if she does call tell her you have to go and hang up. If you seriously think she may be suicidal, tell someone in her family (i.e., a parent or sibling) and they should follow-up on it. If you don't love her and you don't want to be in a relationship with her then you don't have to.
Author Seducer11 Posted March 13, 2005 Author Posted March 13, 2005 Well don't u think tat its really mean to dump her when she has high hopes and trusted u all this time?Do u think i'm doing the right thing by dumping her and got back with my ex?Esp when she's really close to my parents and they liked her.Sometimes i wondered wat my parents gonna think..Sometimes i juz don't feel rite..I feel guilty and pitty for her..Not tat i love her anymore, I juz pitty her for having to face heart breaks esp from someone who she trusted so much.I know how's it feel to be dump..It hurts like hell...It sucks alot..N i know tat i made a lot of promises(which in the end i broke it) but wat can i do if the feelings are not there anymore.So the questions is, am i doing the right thing?Is it normal to have these feelings (guilty)?Honestly it breaks my heart as well to know she's sad... "When the world judges Love, they too often forget the pain their verdict brings.N memories can be so sharp they leaves us bleeding.."
upsetnhurt Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 Seducer, You sound like a nice guy and want the best for this girl. The problem is that whichever way you act with her she still will end up with a broken heart. You can't make that your priority at the moment, your priority has to be yourself and your feelings. The one thing you can do for her is make sure you have communicated everything to her. It won't solve the problems yet let her know the problems are entirely on you and not her. Let her know that she deserves better...............After that I agree with the last poster in that you need to move on and have no contact. This person does not seem to be able to handle communication with you and although it will hurt her enormously now, it will quicken her recovery period. As for you dating your ex, only you know if it is right or not. I guess it all depends on the reasons you broke up and if the communication is there now. Let me ask, if your ex did not come into the picture, would you be so quick to let go of your current girl?
Author Seducer11 Posted March 14, 2005 Author Posted March 14, 2005 Well if my ex didn't came into the picture then i probably would hold on to my 2005 gf..For how long?..Tat i don't know...But even b4 i recommunicate with my ex, i do have the feelings of dumping my 2005 g.f..But everytime i thought abt it,it send shiver to my bone..N everytime i hear she cries on the phone n begging me, it juz makes me weak..I feel like i wanna give her a second chance...But only god knows tat i can't..I'm with my ex g.f..I can't juz accept my 2005 g.f apologies and pretend like nothing ever happen...I know its painful for her but deep down inside my heart i too feel the pain...
Fun2BMe Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 Think about which of the two girls will make you happier in the long run. I used to break up with boyfriends who were deeply in love with me, just like your 2005 gf is. I have been in relationships but none compare to some of the earlier ones where they were so commited and in love with me. Everyone has faults but your 2005 gf sounds like she loves you depply so you should give this some thought. If your ex loved you as much, she would not have left you 5 years ago. If you have made a final decision to break up with her though, then do it quickly and no more talking with her since it will only make it more difficult for her to come to terms with it. If she calls, say it is too difficult to talk to her since you have already made your decision and she cannot change it and if you never respond to her texts she will eventually stop.
||oveher Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 Hi, i have 2 questions, 1st one goes to Seducer11: How frequent and what kind of contact did you have with your ex before you got back together after 5years and do you feel as strongly about her as before? Do you think she really loves you as before or she got back just because there's no one in her life right now and she was sure you'll have her back? 2nd one goes to Fun2BMe: Would you ever consider going back to one of your ex's who was so committed and in love with you if you get a chance? This is my first post and i'm just trying to find some answers to my break-up. Hope you guys don't mind me cutting in.
Fun2BMe Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 ||oveher: " 2nd one goes to Fun2BMe: Would you ever consider going back to one of your ex's who was so committed and in love with you if you get a chance?" That is a good question. I would go back to one of my ex's who was so committed to me in the past. I regret taking them for granted. I can think of three in particular who were so much in love with me, always giving me cards and little meaningful gifts, taking me out and treating me so well. All of my early relationships were like that and I thought all men were like that and I would leave one and go to another. Now, I would even break up with my current boyfriend if either of the men from my past who were that committed were to come back to me. In fact I sometimes try to locate one and don't know where he lives anymore!! I heard one of them had gotten married a few years ago and I felt crushed. As I have gotten older I can appreciate being with someone who is so into me and regret letting those good catches go.
Author Seducer11 Posted March 14, 2005 Author Posted March 14, 2005 Which of the two girls make me happier??Definitely my ex g.f...During the course of our relationship, we were so wild, we never argue (except when she decided to let me go though), We both felt that the world is in our hand. Its the best n happiest relationship we ever had. Unfortunately she had to let me go due to some bad rumors. Well i'm certinely sure tat i can't accept my 2005 g.f due to: 1. I am currently having a relationship with my ex g.f. 2. I dun have the feeling of love anymore. 3. I dun ever think she's gonna change her attitude. I know my ex has made a lot of mistakes b4 but i can't judge or say tat she dosen't love me tat much. All i know is tat, she finally realized tat none of her previous relationship made her as happy as wat we've got before.The happiness tat she's looking for juz wasn't there which made her believe tat it's with me tat she would find tat happiness..Tat's wat she said though.... 1st one goes to Seducer11: How frequent and what kind of contact did you have with your ex before you got back together after 5years and do you feel as strongly about her as before? Do you think she really loves you as before or she got back just because there's no one in her life right now and she was sure you'll have her back? Well i only called her once a year,which is on her birthday.Yes i do feel as 5 yrs b4.My feelings never changed.Every single day i wished tat i could be with her once more.I never stop thinking abt her.But deep down inside my heart i knew tat it is not possible.I was abt to lose hope when suddenly god granted me tat wish.Its true tat life is full of surprises.N now it made me believe to the quote tat say: "If u love her so much, then let it go free.If she comes back to you then she was meant to be yours.But if she dosen't then she wasn't yours to begin with."
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