paranoidandroid42 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Hi guys. I met this girl at school recently and we immediately hit it off. Great connection, great conversations. Similar sense of humour and interests. I haven't dated for a year and a bit now and I wanted to date her. She gave me a lot of signs and I returned them but didn't want to rush it so I took it slow. I have holidays from school atm (1 week) and on the last day before I told her I'm taking her to a movie when both of us come back. She agreed. It was not an official date however. Later that same day she texts me and asks if I'm free, and whether we could watch another movie. I said yes and we do. Again, loads of signs. Touching me and resting her head on my shoulder. Since this was the first time we had been together outside school, I decided to wait and didn't ask her out. Great night though and she said she wanted to pay me back by taking me to her favourite sushi place once school resumes. Naturally I was happy and said yes. However, we texted during this break and she tells me she has a lot going on with regards to guys. I asked her to explain, and she told me she likes two of her best guy friends and doesn't know what to do. At this point I am pretty angry because I'd been led on by a girl before and that nearly ruined me. So I tell her 'I was gonna ask you out in person when we got back to school but now that's not happening obviously' as a last chance. She says 'oh Im sorry I didnt know that but would have enjoyed going out with you. you're a great guy' Then she stops replying. What the hell, honestly? I've been told by several girls that I'm one of the best-looking guys in school. That's the extent of praise you'll hear from me about myself. I'm doing extremely well at school, have been told I have a great personality and have loads of female friends but I keep getting rejected. What's going on? I'm extremely frustrated.
normal person Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 She gave you signs (asked you to watch a movie, put her head on your shoulder) and you didn't take action. She moved on. Be more proactive next time.
rdet123 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Yeah you should have definitely made a move! Asked her out on a officially date or something. Since she has other prospects she probably just didn't want to wast e her time
ExpatInItaly Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Let me make sure I understand this: you said you were going to take her to a movie, but you never did. Is that correct? You were alone together and you didn't make much of a move nor ask her out. If you were serious about asking her out, you're sending the wrong signals.
Frank2thepoint Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 (edited) The girl was touching you, resting her head on your shoulders. You noticed she gave you signs and from all of that you did...nothing. You had an opportunity to give her a kiss, let this girl know you are an initiator, and courageous. This one is on you. You missed an opportunity. Chalk it up as a learning experience. Next girl that does this, hopefully you'll know what to do. What the hell, honestly? I've been told by several girls that I'm one of the best-looking guys in school. That's the extent of praise you'll hear from me about myself. I'm doing extremely well at school, have been told I have a great personality and have loads of female friends but I keep getting rejected. What's going on? I'm extremely frustrated. And this is your problem. You are full of yourself. You spent more time obsessive over how great you are, instead what you can do to make the girl feel special. Edited October 28, 2014 by Frank2thepoint 3
Assasda Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 She tested you one time and you failed. " 'I was gonna ask you out in person when we got back to school but now that's not happening obviously'" - Thats what failed you. Women barely care about your looks OP. It gets you in the door, but your personality does all the talking. So if you keep thinking that because you think you might look good, women owe you something, youre gonna be in for a torrid time 1
Mentos Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 It's best to move on at this point. Even if you didn't make a move after she was giving you clear affectionate hints, she is already talking to other guys. I wouldn't want to hear about the 'other guys', so just move on. I have a feeling she may be back around eventually. If at that time, you're both single, invite her out to do something and let nature take its course. Edit: .....by the way, don't pull your hair out!
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