KFuPanda Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Okay, so I know girls will date multiple guys, and sometimes I feel like as a dude, we are put under more scrutiny when it comes to this. Maye not, I don't know. At what point are you an ******* when you date multiple women? I mean, if I make out with them, sleep with more than one at once, does this make me a **** person? I have never slept with more girls than one at a time, but recently, I have started seeing a few girls. The one I really like is extremely playing hard to get or something. Then I have three other girls who I have had dates with that seemingly like me. I mean, am I leading them on? I like them too, but I just don't know which one I like more, and I am holding out for this other girl anyway. I just don't want to be a super bad person in this, but I don't know what is acceptable. I mean, I guess I don't want to break hearts, but how do I know if I am going to break a heart, or just slightly disappoint someone?
J21 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 You can't control how someone feels or will react, the only thing you can control is being open and honest with them from the start. If they ask if you're dating anyone, say something along the lines of "I'm not dating anyone seriously, but I am out there meeting new people to find my better half." Just don't try and trick them intentionally into thinking you aren't multi dating when you are. 2
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 It crosses over into the unethical when you give multiple people the impression that they are the only ones you are dating / sleeping with. As long as you don't lie to them (& failing to correct their belief that you are faithful is a form of deception) you are OK. 2
central Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I would date several when that option was available, until I figured out who was the best match for me. So, I'd hold off having sex until I made a choice, OR I'd inform them I was seeing others, not yet ready to decide on exclusivity, and ask how they wanted to handle it. Surprisingly (to me), most were willing to continue dating me AND have sex anyway (of course protection was always used). Most didn't work out beyond a few dates, and most of the rest didn't work out even after having sex, for various reasons. Finally, one did!
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