Curious-One Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 First of all I dont like messing w girls at work just for this reason but this is second incident this week. First girl Im talking to my friend in the office and this girl comes to his office and starts talking to me. This girl is probably hottest girl in the office btw. Her: I saw u in parking lot I waved to you but u just passed by. Me: my bad I was on the phone didnt see you Her: I always see you talking on the phone Her: do you have gf Me: no do u have bf Her: no My friend says something Her: so who do you talk to in the morning Me: friends I have lots of friends and we talk in the morning makes the traffic better Her: thats gay I dont even talk to my friends in the morning and im a girl At this point I change the convo to something work related. After she left my friend is like dood she wants you takes alot of courage to ask someone if they have gf. Also shes called you gay which means shes thinking about you sexually. I was like I dont like to date girls at work I guess ill talk to her some other time and see how it goes Ever since then shes been nothing but a bitch to me. Second girl I got put in group w 2 girls and a older guy. One girl is married and other one is single. She was wearing her usual clothes yesturday and we talked alot joked around. Today she comes wearing boots mini skirt and looking really cute. Mind you its like 50 degrees outside. So anyway I msg her on skype just asking about group stuff Me: hey name do you still want me to pick up xxx from the store Her: haha umm get watever it doesnt matter Me: name said u wanted xxx so thats why im asking Her haha no I wanted blah blah long msg Now im thinking why is she laughing im not even saying anything funny. Still im like dont wanna mess w girls at work. so im walking w the guy to pickup the stuff for work I see her and shes looking really really good I make some remark and she laughs once again nothing funny. So im like ok she really wants me gonna send her skype msg once I get back in the office. when I come back I send her me: I was half aslerp this morning wjen I saw you but you are looking super cute today almost didnt recognize you in the hall today. Her: hah aww thanks! Me: yah I was saying to xx you were looking cute I should have taken you shopping w me. her NO ***KIN RESPOSE. Girls how do they work... wtf am I doing wrong .
Redhead14 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Dood . . . stop reading into miscellaneous random comments. . . if you like one of these "girls", ask her out Period. On top of that, they sound like "girls".
Frank2thepoint Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Listen up grasshopper. This is what I advise you should have done. Her: I saw u in parking lot I waved to you but u just passed by. Me: my bad I was on the phone didnt see you Her: I always see you talking on the phone Her: do you have gf Me: no do u have bf Her: no You respond "Good, then I'll be your boyfriend, and you'll be my girlfriend. We're going out tonight to celebrate our relationship." You're welcome. 1
cdt76 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Have you ever seen a bowl of spagetti? Think of the bowl of spagetti as one, long string of pasta. The string has a start and an end....somewhere. Now, think about how that string of pasta is bunched up, curled on top of each other, in an endless curve and bits and pieces of vegetables interupt it and then topped off with cheese that melts into the individual strings of pasta and sort of makes this big glob of well....pasta. Now. The string of pasta is a thought in a womans head. The little pieces of vegetables it runs into on it's winding, twisting road are emotions and on top of all those emotions and unending curves in the thought pattern is the cheese. The cheese is her world, friends, past, state of emotional distress, kids, job, parents, school. Now. If you can figure out how to untangle all that, then you my friend have solved the greatest mystery in the universe. And please when you do figure it out, please tell me the secret because I get lost after"Hello, My name is Cory."
Redhead14 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Have you ever seen a bowl of spagetti? Think of the bowl of spagetti as one, long string of pasta. The string has a start and an end....somewhere. Now, think about how that string of pasta is bunched up, curled on top of each other, in an endless curve and bits and pieces of vegetables interupt it and then topped off with cheese that melts into the individual strings of pasta and sort of makes this big glob of well....pasta. Now. The string of pasta is a thought in a womans head. The little pieces of vegetables it runs into on it's winding, twisting road are emotions and on top of all those emotions and unending curves in the thought pattern is the cheese. The cheese is her world, friends, past, state of emotional distress, kids, job, parents, school. Now. If you can figure out how to untangle all that, then you my friend have solved the greatest mystery in the universe. And please when you do figure it out, please tell me the secret because I get lost after"Hello, My name is Cory." A boy will never understand a girl. A man will understand his woman. 2
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 First girls are under 18. So are you trying to understand girls or grown women? The 1st woman in your story was making it blatantly obvious that she was interested in you. When you rejected her by not asking her out, she was embarrassed is not licking her wounds because she thinks she made a fool of herself. The 2nd woman does not like you romantically & wanted the conversation to end the minute you started commenting on her physical appearance.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 The first girl is immature. "That's gay" is a sign that she's young, and it certainly does not mean she's thinking of you sexually. Your friend is a bit dense for jumping to that conclusion, based on that particular comment. I agree that she was trying to send you signals but it didn't work. Second girl gets uncomfortable with you commenting on her appearance. Notice she didn't elaborate and continue the conversation after that. She's not interested romantically. It's not complicated, really. 1
Author Curious-One Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 The first girl is immature. "That's gay" is a sign that she's young, and it certainly does not mean she's thinking of you sexually. Your friend is a bit dense for jumping to that conclusion, based on that particular comment. I agree that she was trying to send you signals but it didn't work. Second girl gets uncomfortable with you commenting on her appearance. Notice she didn't elaborate and continue the conversation after that. She's not interested romantically. It's not complicated, really. Well yes its clear shes not interested but was I wrong to assume she was before asking her. I mean she kept laughing at everything I said I was not trying to be remotely funny as u can see by those msgs. On top of that she was dressed regularly yesturday but today she came in skirt and boots w her hair done and Looking great. It was 50 degrees this morning so I cant imagine her just wearing that for fun. Thats why I said I cant understand women...these women are 24 ...25. I always thought if girl laughs at everything u say its a clear sign shes interested. I guess im wrong ?
cdt76 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Age in this case is irrelevant. What you need to be focusing on is not getting romantically involved with people you work with. It never, never ends well. 1
Author Curious-One Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 Age in this case is irrelevant. What you need to be focusing on is not getting romantically involved with people you work with. It never, never ends well. Its not like I actively tried to get these girls I was just being friendly but I felt like they were the ones that were going after me. I knew that the first one was interested and I ignored it but it still didnt workout since shes a total bitch to me now. Its almost like a lose lose situation. My first gf was my coworker and it ended terribly so trust me as I said in op I am trying to avoid work relations.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Well yes its clear shes not interested but was I wrong to assume she was before asking her. I mean she kept laughing at everything I said I was not trying to be remotely funny as u can see by those msgs. On top of that she was dressed regularly yesturday but today she came in skirt and boots w her hair done and Looking great. It was 50 degrees this morning so I cant imagine her just wearing that for fun. Thats why I said I cant understand women...these women are 24 ...25. I always thought if girl laughs at everything u say its a clear sign shes interested. I guess im wrong ? Do you think she dressed like that for you or something? We ladies do in fact like to dress up for fun sometimes. Perhaps she had a date later. I don't know why you're focusing on what she was wearing. And no, women laughing at what you say is not necessarily a sure sign she's interested romantically in you. A lot of people include unnecessary "haha" and "lol" in their online communication too. Doesn't mean a thing.
Author Curious-One Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 Do you think she dressed like that for you or something? We ladies do in fact like to dress up for fun sometimes. Perhaps she had a date later. I don't know why you're focusing on what she was wearing. And no, women laughing at what you say is not necessarily a sure sign she's interested romantically in you. A lot of people include unnecessary "haha" and "lol" in their online communication too. Doesn't mean a thing. Fair enough I will take that into consideration next time thanks.
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