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Trying to pull myself out of darkness


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The last 6 months have a been a complete struggle. This is the time where my girlfriend in college and I split up. I went to school far away from home and always planned to stay in the new city. I loved it here. However, my post grad plans included her. Living with her, starting a family with her. I was so distraught after the break up. We fought a lot, and I pushed her away.

 

Anyways, I moved to a state over for work to be away from her. In the process I left a lot of friends. I decided moving back home was the option for me. However, it was like I was "hiding" from where my problems. Going home isn't going to make me feel better about my situation.

 

As hard is it is, I decided I'm moving back to the city where I went to college. I loved it here. There are so many memories and I love her still. She has a new bf and lives with a childhood friend of mine.

 

The point I'm trying to make is, you can either hide from your pain and fear. Or tackle it head on. Yes, I will run into her again and yes I regret pushing her away. She is the missing piece to my happiness in a way. But if I keep hiding, I'll never heal. Just needed to vent. Thanks guys!

 

I hope you all are having a good day and reach out to me if you need to talk.

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She is the missing piece to my happiness in a way.

No she's not.

 

People can ADD TO and COMPLIMENT happiness, but if they are part of the source, you're in trouble.

 

You make yourself happy. That's it.

 

I dumped a long-term ex because I truly was responsible for a lot of her happiness. It's too much of a load to carry, which was a big reason I ended things with her.

 

You miss her because she made you happy. That's normal. But you have to realize (if not learn) that depending on others for happiness will almost always lead to pain on your end.

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It's been said already. Happiness is what you create all by yourself. Now with this in mind, maybe you have a better time getting over her. Good luck and have a great day yourself!

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