nowimnothing Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Hi there, I am in need of advice about what to do in this situation. I broke up with my alcoholic ex boyfriend of 8 years about 9 months ago. After a month, he went to rehab and sent me two letters while he was there. I wrote him one back wishing him luck on his journey to sobriety , but that I didn't want anymore contact with him. He hasn't contacted me since then and I think he is really over it. Now, his mother keeps calling me, sometimes 4 times a day! I never answer the calls because I'm afraid if I answer, even to tell her to stop calling me, she will call even more. I don't know what to do here. I'm starting to feel like she is harassing or stalking me in some way. I thought eventually she will get the idea to stop calling but she doesn't. I have a new boyfriend and he is really troubled by this and it's making me mad that she keeps calling. What is the right thing to do here? I have her number blocked on my phone but she can still leave a message on my machine .
Art_Critic Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 first off.. your BF shouldn't be all that troubled.. it is you she is calling and she is not your exbf so try to feel any pressure form him on that and if he pressures you any then tell him to knock it off.. The only thing you can do is have a heart to heart with the woman, tell her that you would like to move on from the whole relationship and that phone contact is too stressful for you, wish her well and hopefully it will all go away. If that doesn't work then you might try another family member, you were in the relationship for 8 years.. call someone who knows her and can have a talk with her. If all else fails or you would like to not deal with any of it then just go get a new phone number...
Omei Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Honestly ? I don't think you have to do anything... Maybe it would take a few weeks but without a breadcrumb on your half to go on she will grow weary of making calls with no reply's its only natural to give up eventually and she will. If it was me everytime she call id rush over to the phone with my fart app and play it each time but im a silly weirdo :-S 1
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 If you have never answered I suggest answering. Tell her you don't want her to call you any more. While you seem to believe that will cause mom to call you more, I think it will make any sane person stop calling you. Since your way isn't working, try mine. If mom does call after than threaten to report her for harassment. 1
Author nowimnothing Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 Omei, I love your idea of having a fart sound to play lol! Now you're giving me an idea haha! Thank you all for the advice 1
CaliBabe Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 You are doing the right thing. Keep letting it go unaswered, she will eventually get the point.
Omei Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Omei, I love your idea of having a fart sound to play lol! Now you're giving me an idea haha! Thank you all for the advice If you're really gonna do that awesome LoL!!! Cuz personally I gather she knows yall are over if she can still leaves msgs on your machine if it was of any importance she would of my guess is shes a bat wild mom that wants her two cents in maybe and at this point after the breakup nothing said will be good for anyone breakups are just filled with hurt I doubt she has anything useful to say to you let it ring out.
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