Col1 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Out on the dance floor with a lady I asked to dance, and another man wants to "cut in." What the hell, I had the courage to cold approach and ask her to dance. Now he wants take over? Of course, I look like a brute to the lady if I tell the other guy no. And I look insecure if I ask him to "cut out" after a minute. What is your opinion of men who "cut in" on the dance floor?
somedude81 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Tell him to piss off. More realistically just ignore him. As you said, you put through the effort in finding a woman who wants to dance. The cut in guy is just wants to jump straight to a woman who he knows wants to dance. Only let a guy take over if you know him or if the girl knows him.
Toodaloo Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Ask her. Simple way is to say "I don't want to stop dancing with you - who do you want to dance with?" Let her make her own mind up... That way you are respecting her feelings and wants, you are not causing a scene and you are making your intentions clear... She will more than likely choose you... sometimes it might not work but normally she will choose you. 6
Emilia Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Ask her. Simple way is to say "I don't want to stop dancing with you - who do you want to dance with?" Let her make her own mind up... That way you are respecting her feelings and wants, you are not causing a scene and you are making your intentions clear... She will more than likely choose you... sometimes it might not work but normally she will choose you. Exactly. Show her that you want her but that at the same time she has a choice. It makes you look confident. Don't be aggressive with the guy OP, most women find that difficult.
Priv Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Tell him to piss off. More realistically just ignore him. That's a rather odd attitude considering you practice salsa. What kind of event was it? Like a formal dance event or social? If so, it might be considered rude of her/you to refuse the next dance. It is normal etiquette unless she wants to sit the next few dances out to rest or have a drink or something. And even than take note to at least have a dance with him later on if she is staying. In a nightclub just ask her what she wants. Kind of weird though, noone ever asked me to 'cut in' when out with a date or gf. The guy sure has balls
somedude81 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 That's a rather odd attitude considering you practice salsa. What kind of event was it? Like a formal dance event or social? If so, it might be considered rude of her/you to refuse the next dance. It is normal etiquette unless she wants to sit the next few dances out to rest or have a drink or something. And even than take note to at least have a dance with him later on if she is staying. In a nightclub just ask her what she wants. Kind of weird though, noone ever asked me to 'cut in' when out with a date or gf. The guy sure has balls I have been dancing salsa and ballroom for years and I have never had a guy go up to a girl I was dancing with and ask to cut in. Common etiquette is to dance for a full song and then to say thank you and find a new partner to dance with for the next song. I wonder if the OP is talking about a situation where he stays with the girl for more than one song.
preraph Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 It's traditional that men are allowed to "cut in." Etiquette is to let them and then go cut back in on them if they take it into the next song. It goes way back. There is no theory under which you don't let them cut in. If it was your wife and they seemed to be taking liberties, then you are allowed to break it up. She's not anywhere near yours. 1
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 If you are a relative stranger & she knows him, you almost have to say yes because he's probably making sure she's happy / safe. I do like the idea of making it clear that it's her choice.
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