Atticus9292012 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I met this guy at a party the other night. We had really good conversation and I generally enjoyed his company. Went back to his place and we listened to music and fooled around a little...he has atrocious taste in music, but was willing to let me play what I wanted...so score on that. I am really ambivalent about him right now, but kind of want to get to know him better. Some things that bother me....he's 3 years younger than me. I typically date much older. He kept pushing me farther physically farther then I really wanted. His nails were kinda longish and well that didn't do much for me. He is cute, but not the most physically attractive. I think I feel guilty because I am in love with someone else, but am trying to move on. Is it wrong of me to keep talking to this guy and hanging out with him even though I am not sure if I want this to be anything? He has texted me every day since we met and has already asked to see me again so I know there is a decent amount of interest.
CarrieT Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 You are not a bad person but you admitted that you are still in love with someone else and haven't emotionally moved on. Just be honest with him and tell him that you haven't gotten over an Ex and move on.
Assasda Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I dont think you've committed any crimes. You cant be sure unless youre sure. So take the time to be sure
isisisweeping Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I don't think it's right to use another person to try to help you move on. You have to do that on your own. It doesn't mean you're a bad person but it would be a mistake and a cruel thing to do to another person. I recently cut off everyone who expressed any interest in me because I know I'm hung up on someone else. (Not even in love) because I realized as they were getting more interested, doing anything but making it clear that I'm not available to develop interest in anyone at this juncture no matter how great they are, would be toying with their emotions.
deathandtaxes Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 You're new and exciting to each other!! Why does it have to stop? Just be honest with him. Go out with him if you want. You never know what will happen...
Omei Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 (edited) You are single now you ARE free to have some fun with new men. This doesn't have to be a serious thing and you don't have to say anything about your ex the only thing you must communicate to him is your not ready for a relationship and ask if doing what your doing is fine, if he cant accept that then stop seeing him and find someone else to have fun with. If you tell him straight up your interest is just casual and nothing committed then you are being upfront from the start and if emotions ever fly on his part where it causes an issue thats his problem if he choose to move forward under the knowledge you gave him. Edited October 28, 2014 by Omei
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