talkatone Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 met her about 11 days agowe both liked each otherspent the night talking, kissing and cuddlingwe didnt have sexi woke up the next morning with her on my chest, stroking my face Moving forward i told her i would like to meet her and we narrowed it down to Sunday as a possibility for us, she said lets plan something nice. When i got back to her and asked how is schedule still is she told me not to leave it open for her and said we will see if we can meet up... it didn't happen and i told her i could not see her but we definitely will do this, she replied later that evening "no problem i have been ill and at home all day, yes hopefully soon :)" today.. ME "are you free Friday evening i want to take you this event it looks fun!" HER "im at a Halloween wedding that evening sorry, hope your ok" ME "that a shame i thought you might like it, what date and time is good for you?" HER "i dont know when im about this week, its quite full on at work. shall i drop you a line when i know my dairy better?" ME "i think you should write my name down in your diary and underline it, the possibly a ?mark at the end :)" HER "haha i will try and put in where there is space :)" ME "im going for a walk i think listen to some music" HER "what right now?" ME "yes you should come join me" HER "m going to bed peach i have an early start x" ME " boo its just a walk, well grab a pencil, my name your diary make it happen! good night sleep well.x" HER "sweet dreams xx" im getting the vibe shes not interested in me so im backing off now. has anyone got any feedback on this and advice on how to handle this now. thanks
Atticus9292012 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I am not getting a vibe that she is eager to see you again. I'd back off. She would make the time and be excited about it.
Assasda Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I think she's interested. But I think youre hounding her like youre some crack fiend. She must be thinking. "does he have any other friends?" "what does he do with his time" 1
Author talkatone Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 hmm interesting i feel like i need to say no to meeting up if she ever tells me when she is free.
Assasda Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 hmm interesting i feel like i need to say no to meeting up if she ever tells me when she is free. Now I dont know why you would do that. Seems like youre just butt hurt that youre not A-no. 1 in this girls life. Get a hold of your feelings man
Author talkatone Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 i am a little but hurt yeah, but i don't want to give her the impression im available on her terms all the time
Arieswoman Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 talkatone, why not just pick up a phone and talk to her and ask her?? The you'll know one way or another.... 1
Zahara Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 It doesn't seem like she is that interested. Trust me, if I am into a guy, I will make time. Let her come to you. She knows you are into her and that you are interested in seeing her again. Time for her to make the effort. 2
martaldn Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 i am a little but hurt yeah, but i don't want to give her the impression im available on her terms all the time[/quote just let her contact you. in case you are free you meet her if you are not then... you say no and will reschedule. just dont wait for her 2
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 We should have a pinned thread about flakes and mixed signals, how to identify the signs and what to do... Anyways, OP, she said she will let you know..wait, if you want. But while you are waiting, don't get caught up in her...date other people. If she reaches out, talk to her or not. But don't hang on to her words...DATE OTHERS! She probably is. 2
PegNosePete Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 i don't want to give her the impression im available on her terms all the time Don't play these stupid games. If you want a date with her, and she gives you a time, then saying "no" will just make her think you're not interested.. So she said she'd let you know. Now you just wait, don't contact her any more and don't bother responding if she sends stupid texts like "how r u" etc. Don't put your life on hold, chances are she won't bother, but you never know. No need to close the door, but at the same time don't sit by it waiting for it to open. 1
Author talkatone Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 yeah if she is interested she would find time and tell me. so yeah ok sound advice guys. im going to ask this other girl if she wants to come on Friday instead as she wants a catch up with me its a shame as i really liked that other girl
Frank2thepoint Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 ME "are you free Friday evening i want to take you this event it looks fun!" HER "im at a Halloween wedding that evening sorry, hope your ok" ME "that a shame i thought you might like it, what date and time is good for you?" HER "i dont know when im about this week, its quite full on at work. shall i drop you a line when i know my dairy better?" My interpretation is this girl is not interested, or at least has low interest. If she was interested, she would of offered an alternative time for the date, without you needing to ask when it is good for her. Then she gives the typical "I'm busy" remark with her week being "full on at work". Unless she works in a sweatshop with 24 hours of manual labor with no break, she could easily meet up with you even for an hour. She isn't doing that. Don't keep your hopes up. Keep it moving. 1
Author talkatone Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 yeah my gut tells me shes not interested and just next her tbh. why cant women just say no or there not interested very annoying.
jn3000 Posted October 29, 2014 Posted October 29, 2014 met her about 11 days agowe both liked each otherspent the night talking, kissing and cuddlingwe didnt have sexi woke up the next morning with her on my chest, stroking my face Moving forward i told her i would like to meet her and we narrowed it down to Sunday as a possibility for us, she said lets plan something nice. When i got back to her and asked how is schedule still is she told me not to leave it open for her and said we will see if we can meet up... it didn't happen and i told her i could not see her but we definitely will do this, she replied later that evening "no problem i have been ill and at home all day, yes hopefully soon :)" today.. ME "are you free Friday evening i want to take you this event it looks fun!" HER "im at a Halloween wedding that evening sorry, hope your ok" ME "that a shame i thought you might like it, what date and time is good for you?" HER "i dont know when im about this week, its quite full on at work. shall i drop you a line when i know my dairy better?" ME "i think you should write my name down in your diary and underline it, the possibly a ?mark at the end :)" HER "haha i will try and put in where there is space :)" ME "im going for a walk i think listen to some music" HER "what right now?" ME "yes you should come join me" HER "m going to bed peach i have an early start x" ME " boo its just a walk, well grab a pencil, my name your diary make it happen! good night sleep well.x" HER "sweet dreams xx" im getting the vibe shes not interested in me so im backing off now. has anyone got any feedback on this and advice on how to handle this now. thanks I don't think she is THAT interested. IME, usually when she said not to leave it open for her, it means she is dating someone else.
Author talkatone Posted November 1, 2014 Author Posted November 1, 2014 hey i thought i would update the situation. been silence since Monday. then i saw her Friday night when her friend said they were meeting her as she has just got back from her Halloween wedding. we said hi seemed ok, then her and her friends asked if we all wanted to go back.,i declined as i was seeing my friend. as the night went on i rang her as i realised going back there would of been a better option i rang twice got no answer so i text her saying "sorry for ringing and if i disturbed you" then i text her today "whats your address so i can drop this picture of for you" (this picture is a picture she asked me to draw of her a while back, she seemed ok with getting it in person of me back then) anyway i feel like i have overstepped the line a bit here. i just thought its correct to ask if she still wants this picture?
Tayken Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 spent the night talking, kissing and cuddlingwe didnt have sexi woke up the next morning with her on my chest, stroking my face I won't sweat it, sounds like you half way there by the sound of things
Author talkatone Posted November 1, 2014 Author Posted November 1, 2014 oh i forgot to add that her friend that night said that shes on a date with a guy called jack.. im guessing she said that out loud to let me know she is not interested very weird
Tayken Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 oh i forgot to add that her friend that night said that shes on a date with a guy called jack.. im guessing she said that out loud to let me know she is not interested very weird Perhaps....hopefully "Jack" doesn't turn out to be a jack-a$$
Diezel Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 anyway i feel like i have overstepped the line a bit here. i just thought its correct to ask if she still wants this picture? At this point... leave her alone. You are fishing and using the picture as bait. Don't be surprised if she doesn't bite.
Author talkatone Posted November 2, 2014 Author Posted November 2, 2014 i got a text of her randomly today saying "hello! i heard you looked after ......... like a gentleman last night x" this is the first text she has sent me since she said she will check her schedule and let me know any advice for this. shall i just take this breadcrumbs and forget it?
Tayken Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 i got a text of her randomly today saying "hello! i heard you looked after ......... like a gentleman last night x" this is the first text she has sent me since she said she will check her schedule and let me know any advice for this. shall i just take this breadcrumbs and forget it? Exactly, move on to next bit of crumpet.
Lansing Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 My suggestion would be to back off. You can respond if you want but I wouldn't initiate any further communication. Let her make the effort.
sagetalk Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 im getting the vibe shes not interested in me so im backing off now. has anyone got any feedback on this and advice on how to handle this now. thanks Welcome to the land of low interest from a girl. My suggestion is to get out of this situation in a hurry. Tell her to call when she has some free time and start looking for other girls.
IronZ Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 What??? I'm not getting that vibe at all. The exact opposite. Guys like you are clueless. i feel like i need to say no to meeting up if she ever tells me when she is free. That will be the day you lose her. If you want my advice, keep contact with her but don't keep nagging away at her about meeting up. She said she would let you know. Let her come up with a day to go out and then show up to it.
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