Stay Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 Let me first say that I've been told by a friend that this girl is known for being confusing and hot and cold. The guy has dated her and when he was talking to her he wasn't sure if he ever had her or not but eventually they dated. With that said I feel like it's very mixed signals, I've been out alone with her a few times. Lots of one on one time and lots of touching, hand holding, arm around her, and some grinding in the club. I got to know her better and became quite interested than expected. I decided to ask her out to dinner but she was busy which I understand, true or not I didn't care since asking her out like that lets her know I see her as more than friends. So she could stop talking to me now or continue if she's interested. Well she didn't stop talking to me, I flirt quite a bit with her and make it very straight forward also. There's no way she doesn't know I'm flirting with the things I say. I find her sometimes texting me late night or just when she has been drinking, I personally don't text anyone unless I like them in some way when I'm drinking. Now even though she doesn't go with me to things like dinner (I didn't ask again) or small outings, she's very willing to go out to me on more invested activities like events or just somewhere far where it may take more than just a simple few hours of hanging out. So this is my summary and question, she could just like the attention but I found that if girls only like attention they wouldn't invest in spending time with the person. I know she knows I like her with how I flirt, asking her to dinner, and the things I say. If she was really put off by my actions then she would've just ignored me or not even go anywhere with me. But she still agrees to time spent with me, just not 100% of the time. Keep in mind she's a very independent person, not sure if that helps. Also with what I was told from another person about how she's difficult to read just backs up how this is how she really is. Opinions on this? Is this a girl who just likes attention? Is this a girl who is guarding her heart and making sure that not just anybody is let in? Is this a girl who likes sending mixed signals to see how much the person is willing to go? Or is this just how she is and she doesn't really notice it? Personally the fact that I can't get her as easily makes me more determined to do just that.
Assasda Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Where are the mixed signal here? I see NONE. First of all. You dont "get" any girls. You dont own them. And they dont magically become yours. This girls sounds like she does in fact like you, but she's just more mature than you. Keep going out with her, have fun, then eventually kiss her. No woman is for you to own bro. 1
Underthebodhitree Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I don't spend time with people I'm not interested in. I don't see any mixed signals from what you've described. And anyway, who wants to be with someone who can/wants to spend 100% of their time with them? You should be happy she has her own life and chooses to spend time with you. 1
Author Stay Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 Where are the mixed signal here? I see NONE. First of all. You dont "get" any girls. You dont own them. And they dont magically become yours. This girls sounds like she does in fact like you, but she's just more mature than you. Keep going out with her, have fun, then eventually kiss her. No woman is for you to own bro. I knew that was gonna have someone saying that. I didn't mean get her in it that way as I don't ever think of owning anyone and didn't know how else to put it. I'm just use to girls more willing to hang out with me whenever I ask and almost always jumping at opportunities to hang out with me. I do understand being busy and that's why I understand but thinking about it now you're right there's nothing really showing that things are going south, it's just going very casually.
Author Stay Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 (edited) I don't spend time with people I'm not interested in. I don't see any mixed signals from what you've described. And anyway, who wants to be with someone who can/wants to spend 100% of their time with them? You should be happy she has her own life and chooses to spend time with you. Just realized this, you both put it in perspective for me. I guess I'm use to girls always jumping at opportunities to be with me and this is a take I'm not usually used to. I guess I'm afraid of falling into her friend area which she does have quite a few guy friends also. But I'm trying to make it clear in the beginning with a lot of flirting, touching, arm around her, etc. Edited October 28, 2014 by Stay
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