alicia24 Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Last night I went to my BF house. He is remoldeling his bathroom so I took him some beers and brought him dinner. He was really busy and I was really bored so I said I was leaving. On my way home my friend Veronica called. She asked me to meet up with her at a bar so i did. Called my BF and invited him up but he said he was busy and he couldnt come. He was still messing with the bathroom. After the bar i went back to his a house. I was a little drunk, but not obnoxious or anything. He was playing xbox and i told him when he was done his game i wanted a little. Cut to 4am he finally finishes his game rolls over goes to bed, no kiss goodnight, didnt even cuddle up on me, nothing. This morning he wakes up, starts on the bathroom and pretty much ignores me. I cleaned his room up got dressed and told him I was leaving. He said he would call me later. No kiss goodbye, didnt even walk me to the door. I asked him if there was something wrong and he just said no i'm fine. I slammed the door and left. What the eff is going on. any ideas, anyone? I'm clueless. Was it wrong that I went ou or something?
Pocky Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Usually when it appears as though a boyfriend is in the pouting stage, I just leave him be. Give him a few days to get over it and then when we're sitting around and there isn't any stress I ask what was wrong. If he's irritated I'd just leave it alone. He'll get over it. Sometimes people are in a bad mood and they take it out on the person closest to them. I think as women we tend to be sensitive to the emotions of our significant other - so much so that any negative display worries us so much that we actually agitate the situation because we pressure the issue when it's not the best time to discuss it. Wait until he's not stressed from working on the bathroom and ask him what was wrong.
Author alicia24 Posted March 12, 2005 Author Posted March 12, 2005 Thanks You are so right about women being sensitive to other peoples emotions. I always think that when hes in a ****ty mood its because of me. Then when I say something, he's all like "what do you have a guilty conscience or something" I dont think I will ever understand men.
alphamale Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 no there is nothing wrong he was just busy doing his own sheeyat.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 Maybe he's wondering why YOU didn't kiss HIM goodbye but I doubt it. I think he was just busy and then tired (4:30am?) and then wanting to get back to work on the bathroom. He's a guy. Nothings wrong.
djones Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 Hi alicia, How long have you guys been dating? Sometimes people say that there is a "honeymoon period" where everything is great and you cant keep your hands off from the other person, then you go through another stange in the realtionship where its understanding the other person. Maybe he has a lot of stress and he just needs time to deal with it. My GF was going though a lot of stress with school and when I got to finally got to see her after two weeks I thought she would be all lovely dovey with me but she was not b/c she was still tring to deal with all her problems and she didnt want me to hold her or kiss...she just needed a friend to listen to her, and thats what i did, sometimes I guess you have to let your partner deal with stuff on their own and when they are ready they will come to you. I dont think there is anything wrong with you its just that he is under some stress...take care
Author alicia24 Posted March 15, 2005 Author Posted March 15, 2005 hi thank you so much for the advice. Come to find out he was super stressed out and jelous of the fact that I was out with my friends and he was at home working on the bathroom and he couldnt go out. Then he thought I was rubbing it in his face because I called to invite him to join me. He over analyzes things. He got burned really bad in the past so he is always on the lookout. whatever
Hund1976 Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 Well that's good that you guys talked about it. A lot of big problems are just one little thing that was never talked about.
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