sweetpea01 Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 There's this guy who works at the video store by my apartment. I go there all the time, and I've always thought he was super cute. We talk a little bit - but never more than a minute or 2 while he is ringing up my movie. BUT, I always felt like he was giving me the eye. Last night I was out really late - taking a walk at midnight - and I ran into him waiting for the bus. He had headphones on and was reading a magazine, so I was just going to smile...but then he took them off and said, hey! So we're talking a little - and I was fidgeting like crazy! I realized that when I flirt or am nervous, I start flipping my hair like crazy, touching my neck/upper chest area (and playing with my necklace), or laughing too much! I know...I turn into such a dork! This guy didnt seem quite as nervous, but he would keep looking back at his magazine while he would talk to me! I couldnt tell if he did it cause he was nervous, or cause he wanted me to leave already! We talked about college a little bit (we live in a college town), and I told him I graduated, but am back in school taking a few classes before grad school to boost my gpa. He was like, ooh...in college you musta been partying and dating lots of guys, huh?!? Anyway, so I'm wondering if any part of what he did was even remotely flirtatious or seemed interested, what girls/guys do when they flirt, and how YOU flirt! SP
johan Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 He could just be very friendly, or he could just be flirting. Sometimes you develop a little connection with someone you see all the time in the same place. As far as the looking back at the magazine thing, sometimes eye contact gets awkward for me when I am speaking to someone. Maybe he felt the same way. So where else to look, but the magazine. Nothing to do with you, though. You should try to relax a little bit, if you can. Try not to analyze his every move. But if you're interested, you can show him a little more attention than the average person. And be sure to keep smiling. Maybe something will happen.
Author sweetpea01 Posted March 12, 2005 Author Posted March 12, 2005 I'm not usually such a moron! I guess its cause I went out to get some air and he was the LAST person I though I'd see. Anyway, I guess I am overanalyzing cause I always thought he might be a little interested...but we never got a chance to talk...so I'm wondering what our interaction said - if anything.... Sweetpea
Fetish 2 Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 Next time you see him make sure you appear confident, It is really appealing to guys to see a confident girl. So no more fidgeting! Stand with confidence and if there's an awkward silence or anything don't be afraid to cring up a topic... anything u say say it with confidence...in saying that... dont appreal cocky either as that will be a turn off... Good luck!
gd1039 Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 I'm a guy, but I have a similar problem to you. I can flirt when it's just joking around with someone, but god help me when I am actually interested in the girl. It sucks. When I am talking with a girl I like I feel like I am trapped somewhere, watching people walk by and screaming for their help, only no one can see me or hear me. Now I'm in a bad mood...
monkey00 Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 from this situation its impossible to make any conclusion. he could just be a friendly guy, or maybe he was surprised to see you there. he did go out of his way to say hi, took off his headphones and all.... which shows he was trying to make conversation (so he can hear u talk back).... But because of this, there may be a good chance he's interested since he did try to start some small talk with you. just report back with future interactions with him.
Author sweetpea01 Posted March 16, 2005 Author Posted March 16, 2005 OMG...I feel so ridiculously lame right now! Well, I wrote earlier about how I talked to this guy for awhile, and I cuoldnt tell if he was flirting or not. I am usually a good flirter...but if I am actually really attracted, and I am forced to see them in daylight unexpectedly, I ain't so good at it! Anyway, I was walking past starbucks a little while ago, and I looked in (cause I am a crazy caffeine addict and I feel the need to check out the line all the time!) and I saw him! But I saw him looking at me...and the moment my eyes set on him, he waved! So, I am gonna be a woman about this, and march back there right now! Haha...it's on my way to where I am going...so if I work up the nerve, Ill try and actually go in. I'm not young...I dn't know why I hyperventilate at the sight of him! SP 1
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