riokid180 Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 Ugh. First one was my fiance in February. Posted about that one extensively. Second was yesterday with a girl I'd been seeing since late May. She went to a burning man type festival by herself (she invited me but I wasn't interested). When she got back, she was acting distant, but blamed it on being tired. The next day, everything seeemed fine. Then on Saturday when we usually meet up she just wouldn't respond to any texts or my call. And then at 2:30AM texted me "Sorry I was a friend's party and got really drunk and fell asleep right as I got home." I assumed it was some sort of lie and that she hooked up with some other guy. Anyway I texted back "no problem, get better." And then the next day at 1PM she texted me saying "Hey I just woke up, sorry about yesterday. I drank way too much. Are you upset?" And I just said, "That's something we should discuss in person." And so I went over a couple hours later. I just straight up asked her, "Is it over?" And she said yes. I asked why. She said because she felt like we more friends than lovers. That she was into this burning man stuff a lot and I wasn't. She asked if we could be friends. I said no because she was being dishonest about last night. And then I said I had to go. When my fiance dumped I did the worst thing possible, which was to write her several love letters and plead with her in a silly effort to win her back. This time, I know "NC" is the only way to go. Thank you to forum for showing me the right way to handle getting dumped.
Dontfindme Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 You will heal. The second relationship didn't sound like much - more like a rebound in my opinion. Give yourself time to work on yourself. Unless you happen to be perfect. Personally, I feel like more people need to take time and better themselves, before jumping from relationship to relationship, but every situation is different.
Author riokid180 Posted October 27, 2014 Author Posted October 27, 2014 You will heal. The second relationship didn't sound like much - more like a rebound in my opinion. Give yourself time to work on yourself. Unless you happen to be perfect. Personally, I feel like more people need to take time and better themselves, before jumping from relationship to relationship, but every situation is different. Thanks. I did that last go-around too and thought I was acting better in my next relationship (or rebound or whatever). But it still didn't work out. Back to the drawing board!
Itspointless Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 Thanks. I did that last go-around too and thought I was acting better in my next relationship (or rebound or whatever). But it still didn't work out. Back to the drawing board! Take your time, be alone for a while.
CaliBabe Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 80% of relationships don't work out. No worries though, you know so much more now. Keep it moving! Theres a picture quote I have that says: World population: 7,810,521,683 Just in case somebody start feelin too important.
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