Husband always has to go above his means to look like the good guy!

[lollipopspot]

Its not helping the cats by taking them in unless you can take them in and provide for them properly i.e. food, vets, space

 

I really agree with this. OP, if you find you are too resentful at the situation and can't take care of the kittens, get on the phone and see if there is a rescue that will take them.

[Mapper71]

I really agree with this. OP, if you find you are too resentful at the situation and can't take care of the kittens, get on the phone and see if there is a rescue that will take them.

 

Well no, they are adorable and I want to help them, but I didn't want to be put in this position to begin with. Now he tells me one spit up and is lethargic and that one along with another has eye issues. He is just digging a hole for us. He can't pay his share of bills as it is but wants to take all these cats to the vet. Actually, I will be paying for everything because he can't. Then all these people he said would take one (even though they never said that just said "Oh pictures please!") don't really want one and were just saying it to say it. Pretty soon he's going ot get to the point where he won't want to get rid of any of them.

[Mapper71]

A week ago I was told that H's mother would ONLY be here for 2 days, we would ONLY take 2 kittens and she would leave with the other 3. Well now she is going to be here a full week, H wants 3 kittens and we need to find homes for the other 2 and keep them here until we do. I am so mad right now!! She said she was going to leave today but then said said she wanted to go down to Pike Place Market for some fresh fish and leave on Thursday but H can't take her down there until Saturday. Don't ask me why he can't hop in the car with her when he gets home from work at 2PM and make the 45 minute drive there and back during the week. He says that if he does that then they won't be home until like 9PM. In what universe?! Hell I'd take a 1/2 day off work just to come home early and take her there myself if I could stand being around the woman. She doesn't live in reality and her focus is the 70+ animals she has living on her farm due to her hoarding. Our house is in a shambles due to her. There has been kitten poop and cat litter strewn all over our house and she just walks right over it. I bent over to clean up poop on the kitchen floor yesterday and she looked at me so innocently like 'Oh what is that?" She keeps talking in baby voices to these kittens and it's driving me nuts. Oh and then there's H who now has to have 3 kittens on top of the 2 adults we already have. 2 people have shown interest in the same kitten but he just can't part with it. And we need to find homes for the others but H is in no rush to do that so it appears to be up to me to do that too. We have a memorial to go to on Saturday and now he wants to drag his mom there with us. It's at a bar where it is just people getting together to drink and eat and she will be pissed off 15 minutes into it because she won't know anyone and doesn't really drink. H doesn't see this and says she'll have fun. Really? You say one thing the wrong way to her and she gets pissed off.

 

I LOVE how my opinion matters so much to my husband.

[Rejected Rosebud]

Why are you still married to him? It sounds like you hate his guts!

[Mapper71]

Why are you still married to him? It sounds like you hate his guts!

 

What I hate is that he never listens to my opinion of anything. I barely get something out and he immediately poo-poo's it telling me to chill out, it will be fine, you can get through this.

[elaine567]

What I hate is that he never listens to my opinion of anything. I barely get something out and he immediately poo-poo's it telling me to chill out, it will be fine, you can get through this.

What you have to sit down and ask yourself honestly, is he right? Are you often making mountains out of molehills or is his unwillingness to take you seriously actually undermining your confidence in yourself.

The former needs work on your part, the latter may mean you need to be more assertive to get your point across, or it indicates he has a bit of a toxic personality and he is attempting to emotionally abuse you.