laramercie Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 So I met this guy almost 9 months ago randomly in a night club. We had a great time and exchanged numbers. Then we went for two dates and on the last one we had sex. We were a bit drunk, and both stayed at his friends’ apartment so it sort of just happened. It was amazing. Also we talked all night; it’s so scary how many interests and thoughts we share. Then I had to move out of country for a 1.5month, and then he said that it’s a real shame. We randomly contacted on facebook etc, but not much. When I came back I tried to get in touch with him, but he ignored me, saying he would call but never did. And then a month ago he asked me out, saying he was so very sorry for behaving like this and that he would explain it. So we went out, I thought I would hear him out and give him another chance perhaps, because he’s a real great guy. And the meeting was totally awesome, we talked a lot, and then went dancing a bit. He kept on reminiscing how we meet, how he felt then etc. It was so sweet, scary that he remembered so many details! He explained that he was like that because he had a girlfriend back then. After that evening he texted me saying he adores talking to me and that we should meet more often. And then the week passed and I was thinking that he was lying and that he didn’t really enjoy our meeting and isn’t attracted to me because he didn’t write anything for a week. So I felt sad and awkward. Exactly one week after our meeting I randomly met him in front of a club and approached him, tried being nice, but I bared that thought that he doesn’t like me in mind, so I was acting awkward, just talked for 2min and left without saying goodbye etc. Then I bumped into him in a shopping mall and just said hi with a little smile and passed him. One evening I thought I feel so bad about it all and doesn’t understand it that I texted him, that we bump into each other a lot and what’s up with him. He texted back that he thought I ignored him on purpose and that he feels hurt. I said I felt the same. We sort of said sorry and stuff and then the conversation ended and we haven’t contacted since then. And now I don’t know what to think… I’m going for the same gig that he is in 2 weeks, and I’ll probably bump into him there, and I’m thinking about it every day. We really had great time every time we met, but then I was so scared that we didn’t like me that I started acted like he didn’t like me. Now I don’t know if it really is my fault that I was so cold when we randomly met twice after that date or if he really isn’t interested. And what should I do? I’m so into this guy for almost a year now. And what should I do if we accidentally meet in this gig? Also if he doesn’t contact me does it mean he doesn’t like me now, he thinks I’m crazy and awful or sth? Every single day I feel this urge to contact him but I don’t because I think that he would if he wanted to… The question is DID I **** IT UP OR IS HE REALLY NOT THAT MUCH INTO ME?
PegNosePete Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 Why don't you just ask him out on a date? That is the quickest and most reliable way to get the answer to your questions. Call him, don't text, you can tell a lot from voice tone etc that you don't get on text.
Author laramercie Posted October 27, 2014 Author Posted October 27, 2014 Yeah i thought about it, but I don't want to seem so pushy and desperate and I kind of hoped he would ask me out after this apologising we did. Also we live in a small city and I'd be so awkward if I ask him out and he says no and then I'll bump into him again and again. I don't feel as confident to show I'm interested and also I can't help thinking that he would ask me out if he wanted to don't you think?
ExpatInItaly Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 I think his interest faded. He was slow to respond after you returned and hasn't appeared overly enthusiastic about getting together again. I don't see how you messed anything up.
relationship55 Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 I don't think you messed anything up, I don't think he's that interested in you anymore unfortunately At this point, it won't hurt to text him and ask to talk, just to see where his mind is at.
PegNosePete Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 I don't feel as confident to show I'm interested and also I can't help thinking that he would ask me out if he wanted to don't you think? I don't know, I don't know him. Maybe he is thinking the same about you? If your fear of rejection is greater than your want to date him, then I think it says something about your level of interest.
CharlieFox Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 I agree that you should try contacting him.
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