sugarpie Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 I went out with a guy I met on okcupid. We hit it off but within a week, he asked for exclusivity and for me to be his girlfriend. I felt that things were moving too fast so I declined and said we should get to know each other better and go out more. Couple of weeks later, he suddenly cancelled plans and said he needed some time, it didn't feel right at this point and he wanted to be alone for a while. The day after he sent me that message (which I didn't reply because I've no idea what to say), he posted on facebook that he was "unable to forget". Just to add on, we hold hands and make out whenever we go out. I was not clingy, always maintaining my own lifestyle and never pushed for a commitment. I also tried to show my interest by occasionally initiating dates and complimenting him. The dates all felt really nice, I really enjoy his company and talking to him. While I'm not heartbrokened, I'm terribly annoyed, confused and have no idea what I did wrong. Just wanted to get some perspective on what's going on.
gaius Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 It probably had nothing to do with you sugar. =/
smackie9 Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 He's in touch with his ex again or he is still hung up on a girl. You stop worrying, and just move on. 1
Assasda Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 You did nothing wrong OP. This guy sounds like he's got issues. Big ones/ He sounds super-dooper insecure. I must say that I'm glad that you followed your instincts. Notice how he went from "being exclusive" to "needing some time alone" - it shouldnt work like that. Say the words Emotionally unstable. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 You did nothing wrong OP. This guy sounds like he's got issues. Big ones/ He sounds super-dooper insecure. I must say that I'm glad that you followed your instincts. Notice how he went from "being exclusive" to "needing some time alone" - it shouldnt work like that. Say the words Emotionally unstable. Agreed. Something is off with this guy. Be glad you discovered that now!
Mascara Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 It's because you said you wanted to see other people. He's trying to get you to miss him, I can't say I blame him.... if you're into someone but they want to keep their options it can be hurtful. It sends the message that you're not very interested in him. Some people aren't into multi dating. Being exclusive is no real commitment. You're not promising any kind of future, and okcupid will still be there if it doesn't work out.
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