DALEY Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Hey , I am having kindaa of a probs with a gurl ive meet since last yr. Ok hea it goes..... Im 20 and 21 in april lol shes 15 i knew her when she was 14 and wen i was 19 now she doesnt look this young. Shes always like liked me alot shes got a bf now thou but Iam like the only one which makes her go all red and start trembling asoon as she just sees me. If i get close to her to like talk to say hi she cant even stare at my face and it looks like shes trembling from cold. Now here weaa i live its common to see young gurls to go out with alot much older guys but i dnt know if its right... iam like confused. And to answer the question that ur all thinkin ... Yes i do like her alot, infact shes treats me better than anyone ive eva talked too. My concern is her age thou.... what do you ppl think. She act more older too and her dad already got a house for her when shes 16 . i dnt know when its her bday i think its on septemeber. Is it that big age difference... also i look more like 18 and act like it too ;P Oh btw my best buddy is 21 and hes going out with a 15. Please HELP Tell me if she was single ... wud it be right ? Cos I dnt see it as bad like if i was 25 and she 20 that sounds ok. Wasnt age created to define the time of our life span? not to create laws upon it. Did god create such laws? nope it was man. A creature no near perfect as for it to judge itself or other, so wat stops us ?..... opinions. < == I like my phrase lol I just need opinions Please dnt be harsh on response as Iam a Newbie
GirlDown Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 when i was 14, i met my boyfriend who was 22...we were together for 8 years after that, so i know it wasn't just that he was a sicko looking for young girl. HOWEVER having had this experience as being the young girl in that relationship, i can tell you the best thing to do is to stay away from her. she acts all giggly and flirty around you because that's what teenage girls do with older guys. they also act this way with guys their own age, though you may think you are the only one. she is not quite mature enough yet to be in any real relationship, much less with a 21-year-old--even if she thinks she is. this so-called relationship would not last "foreva." she has a boyfriend, leave her alone. let her be a teenager while she is one. the one thing i regret the most is not living a normal teenage life when i had the chance because i was too consumed doing things i shouldn't with people who were much older than me. i still cared about him, but i was young. i cheated on him with people my own age, a few times actually. i did a lot of stupid things. i should have known better. i do know better now, and at this age i don't cheat on my boyfriend. but this is because i grew up, and i have more knowlege and self-restraint. at 15, these qualities are not quite set in. looking back, i can tell you, it's not worth it. it doesn't matter how old she looks or acts, it doesn't matter how old you look or act. actually, saying you act like an 18-year-old doesn't make it any better, it makes it worse. even your words make you sound a bit immature. the reason it doesn't seem so bad at 20 and 25 is because you would both be adults. if you like her so much, wait til then. you are the only adult here. act like it. ignoring god and/or laws is a way to justify a behaviour that you know is wrong. whether you agree with it or not is going to matter to a judge putting you away for statutory rape. i used to think it was so cool to be with such an older guy. now i just think it's gross. her father should kick your a*ss. i wish my father did, and i am shocked that he didn't. sorry if this is harsh, but it's honest.
rowi1116 Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 so you have known her a few years, wait a few more. legally safer that way for you! she is a teenager no matter what. hopefully her current boyfriend is too. and the fact is she DOES have a boyfriend. No matter what her father thinks, even if he did buy her a house or whatever, i dont think anyone, including the state which you live in, would think a sixteen year old should have her own place, or be dating someone so much older. if you care about her, give her her space. being a teenager is a wonderful thing. and i think you may know that yourself as you state you act more like an 18 year old? give both you and her time. if it could possibly turn to love, dont rush it.
Author DALEY Posted March 12, 2005 Author Posted March 12, 2005 Hmm You seem quite angry when responding..... Just to let you know iam asking a question. i havent even stated that iam gonna start a relationship. And you obviously dont know how life is here. Its no longer cool going out with someone older for gurls here. infact what gurls like dating here are more of what i call the sterotype guy, the one thats the most rebel\looks good\has money\cares about no1\and is probraly the worst type of person. And yes I do feel 18!! and it feels great and I sure do act as one cos i feel like it. And I can tell you that my ex played me around like a fool and totally destroyed me it took me 5months to just stop crying and go out. SHE was 19 and she was less mature than gurls which are 15. And the one iam talking about is not giggly she just goes red and cant make eye contact. but she does speak normal of corse the only thing is she trembles {nervs probrally} I agree on what you say that it want last. But theas no chance in the universe that i can get a gurl of 19,20 or even 18 cos they all go for the super older guys which are like 27,28 and they are also burnt, I shud move to USA . By this i mean that whea i live its a extremly small place infact i fink the population hea is about 27,000 and its 2km long and 1km wide more or less so its a small place where wen you date some1 by the time they become your Ex everyones been with her and I HATE that. Anyway I am not in a hurry to get a gurl i wud like a 20yr gf so i'll just wait . Well also why shud the farther kick my ass? I only speak to her and Ive told her if she would only be older then somthing can happen but not now. Mayb the farther shud kick the bfs ass since shes got smacked by her bf a couple of times or BTW the bf is 18 to 19 and hes a bastard from wat ive heard o well thats none of my business. Anyways thanks for you opinion and yes it was extremly harsh.
Author DALEY Posted March 12, 2005 Author Posted March 12, 2005 statory rape??!!?!?! Are you CRAZY? I havent even touched her!!!! And I wudnt !! lol. Also to the other poster , that was my idea after all. Iam not rushing anything, but by the time she hits 20 and iam 25 and she still likes me I wudnt mind giving it a go But NOTTTT now that wud be crazy. Anyways iam gona give u an example of ages and dating hera ok? look I know this man{not guy} whos 28 and hes going out with a 16 i mean thats wayyyy crazyyyy. Me and this gurl only have 5yrs difference.
GirlDown Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Originally posted by DALEY statory rape??!!?!?! Are you CRAZY? I havent even touched her!!!! And I wudnt !! i meant if you were in relationship. a 21-year-old man isn't going to want to hold hands forever. nevermind. you're going to do what you're going to do. but don't say no one warned you.
Fun2BMe Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Stay away from her!!! You are too old for her. Don't make excuses such as God this and that or you live in a small town - I am sure there are still girls over 18, pref. over 20, out of the 27,000 population who are available for dating. Leave her alone and let her have her own childhood. YUCKKK on you for even thinking about it. Also, don't make the excuse that you would be more better suited since her current boyfriend abuses her. If that's the case, report it to the authorities, and you can report your desire to have her too. Both will be in her best interest.
Hund1976 Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 YUCKKK on you for even thinking about it. Well maybe in Gibralter its socially acceptable for people in their 20s to date teenagers. But if she has a boyfriend you should leave her alone. If she was your girlfriend and some other dude was macking on her how would you feel?
Merin Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Heres the problem... You're an adult.. even if you don't consider yourself to be very mature or whatever.. you're considered an adult legally. She is a minor.. even if you think she behaves in a more mature manner.. she is considered a minor legally. 5 Years difference isn't a lot... but yes there are times when 5 years is a world away... She's in High School, You're not. She hasn't got her learning permit to drive a car... and maybe you don't either but it isn't because you're not eligible to do so. She lives with her parents (and the part about her Dad already bought her a house for when she turns 16... uh... COUGH COUGH Bullsh*t COUGH COUGH) You I would assume do not live with your parents and if you do I'm pretty sure they aren't trying to direct you the same way her parents are directing her... like uh... have you done your homework? Who are you going to the movies with? Where will you be? AND be home by this time on a school night.... IMO yes she is to young for you... not what you want to hear I know... but thats my 2 cents.
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