Ex and I trying to be friends but he's so disrespectful. What do I do?

[itsdinaah]

Ok so my ex and I broke up about a month ago. We tried being friends but I said something to mess it up and he said he would consider staying my friend. He didn't text me for a few days and I assumed that was a no so I deleted him from my phone. He texted later that day and I asked him he made his decision and he said he was still thinking. So I gave him an ultimatum either make your decision or I'l make my own decision. He said ok so I said goodbye wrote a goodbye poem (that's how I cope by writing) and I deleted him from social media.

 

A few days after that he texted me saying he wanted to give the friendship another chance. So I agreed almost reluctantly. He texted me regularly and began showing interest that he wanted to possibly get back together. Which I didn't want because he and I were a disaster together.

 

Today he lost all of his contacts in his phone and he was mad I didn't text him. I asked him why he said "Because I wanted the contact back" and later I asked him again why he got mad I didn't text him and he said "I don't give a f*** I just wanted the contact back and you can test your theory now as much as you want" So I told him "I don't know why you bothered if all you're going to do is disrespect me." And he said I asked for it so I told him "f*** you." He responded with you're welcome.

 

Should I not text back or should I respond. I'm sick of the way he acts like he can just act like that with no regard to my feelings. (This is one of the reasons we broke up).

[CarrieT]

You can't be friends with an Ex until ALL the romantic inclinations are 100% completely and totally gone; i.e., you are both entirely over each other.

 

Since that is not the case: "showing interest that he wanted to possibly get back together" and the fact that you are sick of the way he acts, I think you should go No Contact.

 

Move on and don't look back.

[mammasita]

Why do you even want to be friends with your ex....it's a messy situation.....and he sounds like a dick.

 

No new doors will open until you shut the one behind you.

[Diezel]

When did you break up with him?

[jonsnuh]

If he's not respecting you, why put up with him? There are plenty of people who would if you gave them a chance.

 

Treat him as a friend. A disrespectful friend gets no special benefits in my circle.