blue_eyes18 Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Thanks everyone who read my last post cause you had some really good advice. I think I have finally decided that my guy really is sincere, and that he just wants to take it slow. I told him last night though taht he needs to be straight up since he hardly wants to see me right now and it's like he won't call when he is supposed to, and that if he is trying to throw hints around , he might as well just lay it flat out and quit playin. He said he cares for me a lot, and that he doesn't think that a little time apart right now will hurt anything. He said"It's not that I am trying to be without you, or trying to talk to some other girl, or any of that" and then he said"you know it's not even like that" and so I am just wondering what he is doing then. I wouldn't have seen him Thursday if I wouldn't have went over there. I don't know if he planned on seeing me Friday and didn't just cause I saw him for like an hour Thursady, but either way, I didn't see him last night. He is supposed to call me today and I still haven't heard from him. Hmmm, I wonder if he is even planning on seeing me today. I wonder if he is even gonna call me before late tonight. Last night, I called him at 9:15 and he said he hadn't been him long, that him and his buddy had been at the Vet with his new dog. Then when he let me go, he said he would call me back. I waited like and hour and called back and that' when I told him that. He started saying he was so so sorry for making me mad by not calling me back. One thing I am keeping in mind is that we haven't been together really but for like 3 weeks. Actually like 1 as an official couple. Ever since I told him to kinda slow down, boy he really took that to heart I guess. I guess that biggest thing I am wondering, is does any of you guys know why he may be doing this right now? He knows for sure I like him a lot now. What is he trying to gain from time apart? I thought the beginning stages is where you are supposed to be together more, not less. Does anyone know? He has told me he loves me and stuff, some of you already know that. And last night he said he wouldn't ever lie to me, that he woudn't do me that way. I just wonder if he likes me so much., then why doesn't he just want to spend more time with me? It's not like I never see him, but it's not actually like I do either. Hard to explain.
westernxer Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 He's punishing you for telling him to slow down (a big slap in the face, that's for sure). Most guys, when they like someone, don't know how to keep their distance, so it's strange that he would want to do this. I think he's very upset with you, and maybe a little hurt as well... after all, you did push him away a bit. I'd be upset too, especially if I liked you a lot. Unlike him, I would've said goodbye and tossed your number. Then I'd forget all about you, especially if you knew how much I liked you. Think about it... if you knew I was crazy about you and wanted to make you happy by treating you right and all that jazz, why in the hell would you want to slow it down? Maybe it wasn't right to begin with... But that's just me, so don't take it personal. Some guys are willing to suffer through it, in hopes that their girlfriends come around and see the light. Some of my friends went through this, and they ended up getting married and living happily ever after (perhaps). Others said forget it, and they started dating other people. It really depends on the guy's emotional fortitude. I have a feeling he's checking out... but he's too chicken to say it.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 12, 2005 Author Posted March 12, 2005 I didn't mean to push him away, I was just kinda surprised when he started saying he loved me and asked me if I loved him. I barely really knew him, why would I tell him I loved him? Then, he must have taken it too personally so he is doing this. I have tried to tell him I like him a lot and want to spend time with him, and he says we shouldn't be togehter every dauy, that absence makes the heart grow fonder. You know waht? Everything you told me was exactly what I was afraid of. How can I fix this, I really like him alot!!!!!
Xerxes1986 Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Originally posted by blue_eyes18 I didn't mean to push him away, I was just kinda surprised when he started saying he loved me and asked me if I loved him. I barely really knew him, why would I tell him I loved him? Then, he must have taken it too personally so he is doing this. I have tried to tell him I like him a lot and want to spend time with him, and he says we shouldn't be togehter every dauy, that absence makes the heart grow fonder. You know waht? Everything you told me was exactly what I was afraid of. How can I fix this, I really like him alot!!!!! get rid of ur evil female ways of life and stop playin games with his heart...lol just go tell him how you feel and if he still likes you he will feel much better, and probably things will work out
westernxer Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 I barely really knew him, why would I tell him I loved him? If you barely knew each other and just started dating, then perhaps he is moving too fast. It would be different if you had something going but then decided to take a step back. I haven't read your other post, so I really don't know. Just don't worry about it anymore, and don't call him either. Maybe he's just a baby.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 12, 2005 Author Posted March 12, 2005 Well, I talked to hom on the phone earlier. Once again, I told him to just tell me and get it over with if he doesn't want to be together or if he just don't care. He said he does care, and that he hopes he sees me tonight. Well, he knows he can see me if he wants to. Duh. Anyways. He said he would call me, but since I am gonna be gone and my cell has no minutes on it today, I told him I would just get in touch with him. He said ok, to call him at 7:00. He knows I want to know what's going on. I asked him if I did anything, and he said no, it has something to do with him. I am wondering if being depressed has anything to do with it. I know he likes me and stuff though. By the way, I told him the way to get a girl is not by treating her crappy, in case he didn't know. That's when he said that other stuff. SO, he must have something really bothering him and stuff. I just wonder why he started acting like this back when we had that first talk about whether I loved him or not. lol That's sweet, but it's silly. I am feeling very attached to him right now, for sure. But I still don't think he really loves me yet or I love him either. Hell, that is understandable. Anyways, I am just wondering what's going on really cause I don't have time for this. I am MAKING time for this though, and I shouldn't be, lol. Well, unless of course it works out. Aww, he was in shorts today(it's finally warming up!) and he looked so cute! He is a little cutie. He can be so sweet too! If he would stop saying such sweet things though like he still wants to be together, then I would take it as he doesn't want to be together or something, but that's not it. Hmmm. And like I said we haven't been together long, so he should understand what I meant whenever I said things, cause now he is saying it too, and he is really taking it REAL SSSLLLOOOWWW! lol Hopefully we'll get toether tonight and he'll actually talk more sense.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 13, 2005 Author Posted March 13, 2005 Ok, I saw him last night cause I went over there. Then, he started kidding around and stuff but it's a long story. He actedl ike he didn't really want me there. I mean, when I got there though, he said "Hey baby" and asked me if I love him. I didn't answer him. I asked him why he says that and won't even spend time with me right now. He said he sees me all the time. HAHAHAH That is funny. Yeah, RIGHT! Ok, anyways, he said he would call me lastn ight and he didn't. I mean, I only stayed there like 30 minutes. We were both pullinh out of the driveway at the same time almost, and he said he loved me. I just said "Bye". What is the deal? I know he has his little girl today, so I am not even gonna bother, and I probably won't hear from him either. Last night when I told him I was gonna miss him, he said"I know" and blah blah. I am afraid all he wants is sex. I guess I am just jumping to conclusions. However, I don't think he should be mad by me saying what I said a long time ago. I mean, if he is gonna say he loves me, why can't he make me feel it? It's like he is slackin'!!!!!!!!! I don't know what to do. If I call him today, he will probably find some excuse to let me go, tell me he''ll call me later, and I will end up calling him again. Something of that nature. He will tell me to not be mad at him, that he has to go, and ask me if I love him. Or, he will act the opposite. I guess I am gonna give up. I don't know what to think about him anymore.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 13, 2005 Author Posted March 13, 2005 And by the way, I keep telling him that I don't want him to hint around if he has something to say, that he needs to lay it out on the table. He said he doesn't want to break up or whatever, that we are together, that he doesn't want to be fussed at. Ok, I don't fuss at him, I was just asking him questions I felt that I was entitled to ask over the way things have been going.
westernxer Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 He's playing with you. Don't talk to him anymore. Just get away.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 13, 2005 Author Posted March 13, 2005 You know what? I just talked to him and he said that he is just tired of arguing and why can't I just be happy? Then we talked a minute and he said he would call me in an hour. He has his little girl, he is getting her in just a minute. So, I will just see if he calls me or not. I just wonderif maybe we should just get along or I should not ask him any questions. See how that works out. If he stilll does this, then I'll know. I kinda think he is epressed too, so that may have something to do with a little of the way he acts every now and then....
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 13, 2005 Author Posted March 13, 2005 he just said that the reason we don't see each other much is cause he doesn't have time it and he won't put up with it. I will just see what happens. I am gonna try something different.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 13, 2005 Author Posted March 13, 2005 He does smoke weed all the damn time, so that prolly has something to do with it. he is just a no-gooder for me, like a few people have said. Why don't I listen? I just keep thinking that maybe he's diiferent than they might think.
westernxer Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 He has a kid to contend with and he smokes weed (nothing against it, but if it bothers you...). Is he a lot older than you? The signs are disappointing... And don't think that you can change him, unless you're willing to attach an iron slab to your leg before jumping into the Mississippi. He's hopeless, and he'll drag you down to hell if you let him. Don't settle for trash.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 13, 2005 Author Posted March 13, 2005 He is 24 and I am 19. Not really much older. He only gets to see his child 2 days a month, and he had to go to court just to get that, so I am wondering what's up kinda. He is not nasty or anything like that, he has money(I know that doesn't matter that much when it comes down to it) but I just don't know what to think. I mean, basically, I am not gonna sit there and kiss someone's ass(do everything their way all the time) without my feelings being considered. I mean, just cause I ask him why he doesn't call me when he says he will, he calls that fussing? Whatever...
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 13, 2005 Author Posted March 13, 2005 Oh, by the way, I have a child too! He will be 2 in July!!! Just wanted to brag!!! lol I love my little angel...
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