steelgator Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 I broke up with my new girlfriend yesterday. We had been dating for about 2 months but only official for a little over a week. She was the perfect girlfriend, she would literally do ANYTHING for me. Cooks for me, compliments me all the time, faithful, loyal, smart, great body. Why I broke up with her: Basically I was bored. I would always forget to text her back and felt like talking to her on the phone was a chore. It wasn't exciting conversation to me. When we first met I never felt that spark, I was hoping over time it would develop because she is the girl any guy would be lucky to have. But right before I was supposed to meet her parents I didn't know if I can see us working out in the long term so I broke up with her over the phone (only way to do it in person was to meet her parents house or wait another two weeks). I cried so much when I was doing it...I FELT TERRIBLE. I told her I couldn't waste anymore of her time if I didn't reciprocate her feelings. She said she appreciated my honesty. My last girlfriend was long distance and she dumped me and said that we weren't right for eachother and I got my heart broken. How do I know the only reason I don't have feelings is because my heart is closing itself off? Am I just feeling guilt and loneliness because it's still fresh? Or did I really make a mistake? Was 2 months really long enough to know if she was right for me? I would hate to get back together and me get bored or annoyed with her for no reason. But I almost feel like I won't meet any girl who will do anything for me like she did. Advice please
ExpatInItaly Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 No, you shouldn't ask for her back. You don't have those feelings for her, you lacked chemistry from the beginning, and you can't force it. And you most certainly shouldn't ask for her back because she does nice things for you - that would be incredibly selfish on your part. Let her go so you can both find people more suited to you. This wasn't a match. 1
walkingonair Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I think you took her for granted.We only realize we love someone when they are gone from our lives and now that she's gone,you miss her.Love grows over time you are not supposed to feel a sudden spark,thats not love,thats lust and it goes away after a few weeks.I feel you're scared and you broke up because you are afraid that this girl will break your heart in the future so you're closed off.You are emotionally unavailable.This has nothing to do with her .It's YOU,your issues.
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