xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 I was in bed with my gf doing stuff and she asked why X was going badly and I honestly said why and it embarrassed her a lot. Before I could even realize it she got up and left. We ended up texting a bit about it but it didn't go well. We had a date planned the next day and it has been cancelled. I said I was sorry and I honestly feel really bad, I obviously miss judged her reaction and I wouldn't have said it if I knew it would make her feel so bad. Any advice on what to do? When/who should make first contact? We are both in a serious relationship for the first time.
avintagegirl Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 I dont know what you said, or how you said it. I am hoping you said it with honesty and sincerity and if that is the case she will see it and you two can work whatever it is out. Maybe send her some flowers with a note saying you are sorry and you want nothing more than talk to her, for her to be by your side and you want to work this out. I hope you can work it out. 2
Author xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted October 26, 2014 Author Posted October 26, 2014 I dont know what you said, or how you said it. I am hoping you said it with honesty and sincerity and if that is the case she will see it and you two can work whatever it is out. Maybe send her some flowers with a note saying you are sorry and you want nothing more than talk to her, for her to be by your side and you want to work this out. I hope you can work it out. Thanks for the help. I don't want to get into details too much but it wasn't the way I said it was what I said.
mrs rubble Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 I'm guessing you were critical of her performance in bed? Or some physical aspect of her? I'd have to know what exactly you said to be able to tell you if it's a forgivable offence.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Yes, please, what exactly did you say?? 1
Author xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted October 26, 2014 Author Posted October 26, 2014 (edited) First off I am an idiot. It has never been a problem before but my nose was holding me back down there (in a place that isn't supposed to smell like roses *) . Edited October 26, 2014 by xXMarlboro_ManXx
ExpatInItaly Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 What did you say? It's quite difficult to give you any feedback on how to approach an apology if we don't know what was said.
mrs rubble Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 First off I am an idiot. It has never been a problem before but my nose was holding me back down there (in a place that isn't supposed to smell like roses *) . Ok. Next time your nose is offended, maybe you should just tell her you want to have a shower with her before getting it on. I doubt you'd be happy if she said the end of your knob smelt like a gumboot sock. A foul smell down there is usually from G.Vag. (a bacterial infection) which is very common and the result of overgrowth of anaerobic bacteria, it's not something you'll catch off her. It is common in women who have an IUCD or are run down. It can also just happen. It's very treatable. She should really have a check-up to be sure though. Try and be tactful next time something like this happens. 3
Author xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted October 27, 2014 Author Posted October 27, 2014 Ok. Next time your nose is offended, maybe you should just tell her you want to have a shower with her before getting it on. I doubt you'd be happy if she said the end of your knob smelt like a gumboot sock. A foul smell down there is usually from G.Vag. (a bacterial infection) which is very common and the result of overgrowth of anaerobic bacteria, it's not something you'll catch off her. It is common in women who have an IUCD or are run down. It can also just happen. It's very treatable. She should really have a check-up to be sure though. Try and be tactful next time something like this happens. Thanks for the help I think I learned my lesson. I just hope it doesn't ruin what we have had together.
mrs rubble Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 Thanks for the help I think I learned my lesson. I just hope it doesn't ruin what we have had together. If you've apologised, and let her know you still find her desirable. I reckon she should forgive you. 1
Maleficent Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 I understand you might not want to get into the details but if you want clear answers you'll have to give us a clearer explanation. This forum is anonymous for a reason. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 Apologize and make sure she understands that you do appreciate her and her vajayjay. In the future, be careful not to criticize your lover, especially regarding more personal matters. 2
CC12 Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 When/who should make first contact? You. You should make the first contact. I know you said you apologized once, but sometimes people don't hear it the first time, especially if they're angry. So apologize again, and tell her that you were blunt with her because you're really comfortable with her and you feel like you can tell her anything, and it wasn't a big deal to you so you just blurted it out like a tactless idiot and that you'll do your best not to let it happen again. 2
Arieswoman Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 MM, You might find this useful ; http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/22/vaginal-odor-causes-infection-solutions-treatment_n_5682148.html you actually did your GF a favour by pointing out something that she wasn't aware of that could have had health implications for her. It is a shame she can't see it that way. I think she's being a bit oversensitive about this, however it would be a good idea for you to contact her again... Good luck 1
Diezel Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 I get that she was offended. It's a VERY personal issue. But you already apologized once. Sending flowers and stuff like that sets a dangerous precedent that every time you say something that offends her, gifts will come soon after. You said "I'm sorry" once. Maybe a second time is warranted, but that's about the full extent of it. 1
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