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KeepCalmCarryOn Established Member

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So I have this bad habit of talking to someone and liking them or jumping a million miles ahead and planning how cute our family will be and I text them and when they don't text me I panic and send a million texts. So this guy I met a way long time ago randomly added me on FB and messages me. I thought it was a joke because of the way he disappeared originally. Anyways he said he is sorry for that he just knew his family would react badly to him dating a black girl. He said he has since talked to his family and he is so regretful that he let me get away. Here is the issue, he is living in IA now doing his residency. Well that sucks. Anyways he's all about talking and getting to know me but he's the worst texter ever. So last time I talked to him was Friday. And so yesterday I sent my good morning text to no reply and then a few more to no reply then I asked if he was losing interest and he didn't respond. So I was like whatever then this morning I sent a good morning text to no reply and I messaged him on fb and it looks like it hasn't been read. Idk what to do! I'm worried and I shouldn't be because I just started talking to him and I doubt it'll go anywhere anyways. I just wish he would answer I feel so neglected no one ever texts me.

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Girl, you're sending way too many texts. One is all you need to send, if he doesn't respond then don't text him again. Sending too many after he doesn't respond sends out needy vibes. Just relax, and let him come to you! Good luck!

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Fondue Established Member

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You're just making things worse. You're coming off as bat **** insane.

 

Some people are not quick texters. I'm not. Just have patience. DO something that takes your mind off the phone.

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Feel better. I just texted you on LS. While somewhat sad, people often don't value what the know they can have. What I mean is basically if you show too much interest too early on, it can be an attraction killer. I'm not an advocate of playing games, but in some ways dating has become a sport of sorts. I'd say invest your time and energy in someone who has the same enthusiasm in you as you do in them.

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KeepCalmCarryOn Established Member

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Can I save it now? No texts or calls or anything. You think he will text me?

HappyLove Established Member

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"People show you who they are the first time" ~Dr. Maya Angelou

 

This guy is a jerk and you JUMPED to have him back in your life. You even say he disappeared the first time you met. What makes you think he's any less of a jerk now? Stop being so naive and yea stop texting so much.

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KeepCalmCarryOn Established Member

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"People show you who they are the first time" ~Dr. Maya Angelou

 

This guy is a jerk and you JUMPED to have him back in your life. You even say he disappeared the first time you met. What makes you think he's any less of a jerk now? Stop being so naive and yea stop texting so much.

 

Well we were just texting that first time and he just stopped. He said it's the whole black thing, being black dating white men is kind of rough

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He sounds like a waste of time regardless. He probably enjoys you chasing him. Plenty of white men date black women don't settle or act so desperate. If he can't bother to show interest don't chase him.

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sid3 Established Member

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Well we were just texting that first time and he just stopped. He said it's the whole black thing, being black dating white men is kind of rough

 

His loss. Move on and don't give him a second thought.

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His loss. Move on and don't give him a second thought.

 

 

True, but he's a doctor!! Wahhhh jk.

 

I just felt like oh how cute if it worked and I moved to IA (he said I should eventually) and what if I got a job at his hospital?! How adorable! Oh well dream shattered (like usual)

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He has absolutely 0 interest in you OP.

 

Please just move on.

 

I dont know why youre chasing this so tooth and nail when the guy is saying that he's not interested in you

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"People show you who they are the first time" ~Dr. Maya Angelou

 

This guy is a jerk and you JUMPED to have him back in your life. You even say he disappeared the first time you met. What makes you think he's any less of a jerk now? Stop being so naive and yea stop texting so much.

 

I agree. He showed you that he is a jerk and you showed him that you are clingy.

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KeepCalmCarryOn Established Member

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I agree. He showed you that he is a jerk and you showed him that you are clingy.

 

Darn it, I really didn't mean to do that again.

sid3 Established Member

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Darn it, I really didn't mean to do that again.

 

Been there. Sucked at the time, but I'm better for it now. Like they say, learning the hard way is unfortunately usually the best way.

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Been there. Sucked at the time, but I'm better for it now. Like they say, learning the hard way is unfortunately usually the best way.

 

Yeah but I do it a lot lol

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Yeah but I do it a lot lol

 

It's time to learn from your mistakes. We all have to!

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dw every girl does crazy things now and again..but this incessant texting is only gonna put all boys off. just text once, and sometimes once more after a while, but not more! dont be needy/rude/impatient in your texts - this will send off bad vibes from the start. you barely know him, unfortunately girls get attached much quicker than guys, and you gotta look after yourself. if you dont send a text, you wont be waiting for a reply, and you enjoy other things in your life, instead of watching your phone. if he likes you, things will happen without you forcing it, if he doesnt contact you, move on..plenty more fish. ive learned this the hard way too

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Still no text or messages on FB from him wtf why would he just pop up and talk about being so interested and how he "wanted me so ****ing bad" like why? why bother wasting our time!? ugh

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There are times when a phone can lose texts so the person never gets them. You might want to send a few more just to be sure.

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Here is the issue, he is living in IA now doing his residency. [...] I just wish he would answer I feel so neglected no one ever texts me.

 

Uhh, he's a medical resident. He's probably working 60-80 hour weeks. Chill out.

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There are times when a phone can lose texts so the person never gets them. You might want to send a few more just to be sure.

 

Stop it Gaius, shame on you. :lmao:

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Just be patient....i know its hard.......but being patient ...good things come to those who wait.......smilin atcha...good luck....deb

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