LifeNomad Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Lets say, hypothetically of course, after 13 years she left...likely she fell out of love or thinks shr fell out of love... Has gone out on dates, with friends n gentleman callers etc...idk what else.. Dude begged n pleaded her to try again, 3 months passed since she physcically how long shuld it be before dude gets involved with someone else, Ps. Dude went thru the whole begged, pleaded, cried, missed work
dragonfire13 Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 I've tried getting straight back into the dating game pretty much asap after a breakup. The thing is, you're unlikely to meet someone straight away that you have a connection or chemistry with...so sometimes after the date, you end up feeling worse and missing your ex more. The thing with break ups is YOU DO get over it in time. I think when you start to be in that zen place of realising that relationship is in the past now, you are in a much better place to be dating...and perhaps more open to meeting someone which means you'll have more success. So the short answer: I wouldn't rush back into dating, I would wait a few months at least, especially after something like a 13yr relationship.
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 There are no rules, whenever you're ready. For some men it helps to get over the broken relationship to date others, for other people they try it and realise they're still not ready and leave the dating for a little while. There's no formula. Just make sure you don't hurt any other people in the process, don't say you're in the market for something long term with someone if you know you're still not ready. Tell people you're just casually dating and not looking for anything serious. I always read that as code for 'not over ex/too busy with work/enjoying the single life'. However, don't base what you do based on what she's doing, don't date because she's dating. You need to start living your life based on what YOU want to do... remember all of those times in 13 years you had to push what you wanted to the bottom to let her have her way, or compromise? Now you don't have to do that anymore. It's a weird feeling! Don't date to try make her jealous and win her back. Date because it's fun and you gain confidence and might just meet someone cool. After three months I would be treating it like it was dead and buried now and that I had to move on, I could never be one of those people that hung on hoping their ex changed their mind. Hell, one week after being dumped I'm living my life as though they don't exist to me anymore. Because holding out hope is the one thing more painful than forcing yourself to realise they don't want you anymore and move on.
Author LifeNomad Posted October 27, 2014 Author Posted October 27, 2014 thank you all for responding, its been about 3.5 months in my case since she physically left, although she has told me in her mind and heart its been over a year, ive talked to women ive met but just as friends, until recently I met someone that we both seem to be in similar but different situations and have been clicking good. I feel even guilty for being happy, for having something or someone to look forward to tho
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