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[xcaliburz]

Hello and nice to meet you all! I'll start my short story out at the beginning. I was being a nice guy and saw a woman on fb homeless that was 3 months pregnant. I was needing a roommate at the time for bills. Even though I was single I was dating around so the thought really never crossed my mind till she moved in and made several advances at me. The real father of the baby went to prison for having pot plants and guns on the same property. From the beginning it bothered me a lot she would talk to him everyday for quite a while and still tell him she loves him then walk inside and say the same to me. We had a bad start from that and my friends didn't like her but we made it work for a couple months then had problems.

She left a month ago for 10 days cause of a stupid fight and went and stayed where she was unhappy with people that took her phone, wouldn't let her out of there site, and always downed me. Finally she came back after 10 days.

She left again a few days ago for the same place. Saying she wanted to come back after the first night and everything. I show up though and she wouldn't come. She comes and gets her stuff and I am beyond hurt and am a little bitter. The fight was over the baby having my last name and getting married. She wanted it now and I wanted to wait a few weeks till we had a better place.

Now what kills me is she keeps constant contact with me threw both times. Saying she loves me and this baby loves me but refuses to come home. Told me she is tired of hurting but loves me and everything will be ok. I really feel like this is a game and childish. We don't even argue that much but we also don't have sex that often cause in my mind she is 8 months pregnant now.

I was told by her enforcer she is staying with I am not allowed up there and she last night told me over the phone its best for me not to text or call her. Then 5 minutes later sent me a text saying she had to say that cause her enforcer was in the room.

I understand the no contact rule but she is 8 months pregnant and I love her and this baby boy coming in the world. Have claimed him as my own and she loves that about me. I was and am still so excited. I know what I should do but it's not easy. In my eyes this is my son.

The pain is to much for me to keep this up. She won't stop messaging me after I've asked her not to. I'm so confused. It was a great relationship besides the sex and the 1 argument a month that didn't last more than a minute max.

What's even more sad is I am a contractor and I basically gave up a job recently because I didn't want to go to work alone and I am so hurt. I gave up many of my good friends for this relationship so I don't have anyone to vent to. I really feel like the only thing I've wanted in a long time was this family. I am so attached to both its getting unhealthy with her gone.

Edited October 26, 2014 by xcaliburz

[Ecko08]

That is a very messy situation you've found yourself in.

 

What do you mean by "enforcer"? Is she a prostitute and this guy is her pimp? Because that's what it sounds like. Either that or the place she keeps going to is a drug den. It sounds like either, or, or both.

 

Regardless, you should get out of that mess before either a) you get her hurt, b) you get hurt, c) she gets locked up, or d) you get locked up. And when I mean hurt I mean physically hurt, not emotionally.

[xcaliburz]

Rather funny it's a lesbian woman that doesn't have a car, own her house, her kids won't talk to her and she runs a support group. I am 6'6" and a monster compared to most. This woman just **** talks me 24-7 and doesn't even help people.

[loversquarrel]

A bit of advice - the next time you decide to " help" a homeless pregnant woman on fb, stop yourself and take the bad idea jeans off.

 

A second bit of advice - not your kid. I repeat, not your kid.

 

Smarten up or you will be in for a big world of hurt, financially and emotionally.