Jet Lag Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Does anyone ever wonder if we don't end up with the ones we really want because of evolution? Deep down guys are programmed to chase, yet if I really love someone, then, there is no need to chase. The guys that have chased me are ones that I am not that into. Hence, if they chase until we give up running, we are with someone that wouldn't be our pick. Sucks really.
StrangerThanFiction Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Does anyone ever wonder if we don't end up with the ones we really want because of evolution? Deep down guys are programmed to chase, yet if I really love someone, then, there is no need to chase. The guys that have chased me are ones that I am not that into. Hence, if they chase until we give up running, we are with someone that wouldn't be our pick. Sucks really. Hm. Interesting theory, Jet! I've wondered about that myself, actually. I chased my ex and was always the one trying to make it work. Maybe if I would've had him chase me it would've been different? Nah. Conjecture doesn't matter now. We're done now. I knew what I wanted at the time and I went for it. He left me for someone else in the end but is it because I "chased" him? Maybe. As far as I'm concerned, I'm better off.
lakerman34 Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 I find that the only times I end up in a relationship are when I'm NOT chasing. A girl sort of just shows up, and we just like each other. I've NEVER been successful in actually picking out a girl, saying "I like her," and pursuing her.
StrangerThanFiction Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 I find that the only times I end up in a relationship are when I'm NOT chasing. A girl sort of just shows up, and we just like each other. I've NEVER been successful in actually picking out a girl, saying "I like her," and pursuing her. I hear you there, lake. The only guy I've ever "chased" was my most recent ex. With bf's before him it was the other way around. I'm very rarely attracted to anyone so when I actually met someone I was attracted to I went for it. Stupid, stupid mistake it seems.
lakerman34 Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 I hear you there, lake. The only guy I've ever "chased" was my most recent ex. With bf's before him it was the other way around. I'm very rarely attracted to anyone so when I actually met someone I was attracted to I went for it. Stupid, stupid mistake it seems. I refuse to call anything in regards to love "a mistake." Call it a learning experience. You can never, EVER be blamed for following your heart. "When Love beckons, follow It." -Kahlil Gibran 1
Itspointless Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Humans desire what seems to be out of reach. The unknown holds promisses, advanture, danger versus the known, steady and predictable. Chasing is I think a mixture of nature and nurture (society). Most woman expect man to chase. When they chase their definition of it is often - in my opinion - pretty laughable, the minute most woman notice man to be interested the roles are reversed again. Also no matter what, woman always do the picking. Lakerman34, I love Kahlil Gibran his writing on love.
StrangerThanFiction Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 I refuse to call anything in regards to love "a mistake." Call it a learning experience. You can never, EVER be blamed for following your heart. "When Love beckons, follow It." -Kahlil Gibran You're right. I've definitely learned a lot from it, that's true. I guess I'm just still a bit afraid to do it again for the sole reason that when I did go for it it turned out so awfully. All part of the healing process I suppose!
lakerman34 Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 You're right. I've definitely learned a lot from it, that's true. I guess I'm just still a bit afraid to do it again for the sole reason that when I did go for it it turned out so awfully. All part of the healing process I suppose! That feeling is normal. That feeling of "I'll never be able to trust a (wo)man again" is how I ALWAYS feel post-breakup. And then, one comes into your life that makes you trust again. It's great for a while, but then, they'll do something that'll make you lose that trust. It's an endless cycle until you meet the person you're meant to be with. Just embrace the cycle. The lows make the highs even higher. It's better to love and loss than never to love at all.
blackcat777 Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 It hurts when love beckons in the dark over a cliff. But now I know not to leave home without a parachute. 1
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