Art_Critic Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Also... make sure the date he has to pay you is written in stone, the reason I say that is that he may come up with every excuse in the world to not pay you on that day and he will fall behind.. please don't accept that and boot him out on the first time he does it.. 1
Georgia2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 I'm renting. My rent would go up if the landlord knew someone else was living here, but he is never around (doesn't live here) and I never see any of the neighbors in this building. I don't think that'll be a problem. A far as him not having the money, i told him thats not an option. He has to MAKE the money cause I won't cover him. You are asking for trouble not putting him on the lease. When my ex and I were together he put me on the lease his rent went up. But it's better for the rent to go up then getting kicked out. You are violating the lease agreement if you don't add him. The landlord would have every right to kick you both. You are living risky if you do that. How do you know the tenants won't complain? How do you know the landlord won't see him? I would think that through if I were you before deciding to move him in without adding him to the lease. It sounds like he wants an easy ride. I kept up men before but not anymore. I would rather be alone than keeping a man up. Which is exactly what you would be doing if you let him move in with you. 1
Georgia2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Weve been together for over a year. For making only 1200(?) a month. That was the question. If he makes 1200 a month why can't he pay half of everything? He would easily be able to afford it. Does he have a car payment/car insurance to pay? Does he have a cell phone bill? If he doesn't have a car or car insurance to pay for then he should pay 50/50 on everything! That includes rent, utilities and groceries. If you start paying more for everything than he does now why would he change later? I think your asking for trouble being with him. He sees a mature older woman with a good stable job and you are a free ride. 2
Art_Critic Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 if she puts him on the lease (he may not be able to pass the credit rating needed) she will lose her ability to boot him out if she needs too. 2
Georgia2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 if she puts him on the lease (he may not be able to pass the credit rating needed) she will lose her ability to boot him out if she needs too. I have horrible credit and I passed on credit rating for my apartment. She is also risking being thrown out of the apartment by the landlord by not adding him. She can make herself head of the household. Which she give her the ability to throw him out if she needed to.
Art_Critic Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 I'd risk the runin with the landlord before putting myself in the position of not being able to evict him.. you can't throw someone out who is on the lease, head of household or not.. that would be their legal place of residence and you would have to legally evict someone to do it. In some counties in GA.. you can't ask someone to leave that has lived in your house 31 days..including just a friend couch surfing.. you have to leaglly evict them, if you gave them the legal definition of being on the lease it can be totally problematic to get them out... BTDT She hasn't known him that long either so the chance of this going sideways is there.. 2
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 I'd risk the runin with the landlord before putting myself in the position of not being able to evict him.. you can't throw someone out who is on the lease, head of household or not.. that would be their legal place of residence and you would have to legally evict someone to do it. In some counties in GA.. you can't ask someone to leave that has lived in your house 31 days..including just a friend couch surfing.. you have to leaglly evict them, if you gave them the legal definition of being on the lease it can be totally problematic to get them out... BTDT She hasn't known him that long either so the chance of this going sideways is there.. I agree. There are so many red flags in this situation, it would be better not to do it all. Its a risk either way, get kicked out by landlord or have to go through legal eviction process. 2
Diezel Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 I'm paying rent. Everything in this apartment is mine. I sort of feel like he is just living with me in increments. If we ever moved out and got our own place, things would be different. But, I know he can't afford to split things and he definitely can't afford to pay while he is away for those months. I'm fine with this...unless he ends up costing me more while he is here. I don't think he's looking for a free ride. He has a free ride right now, he lives @ his bands apartment and pays nothing. Theres no way he could split things with me. My rent is pretty high. I am doing fine paying that on my own, I don't mind him living with me because he is here all the time anyways. You might be 8 years older than him but I don't think you understand the dangerous precedent you are setting for him. If he can't afford to split things and is going to move in with you, then maybe he isn't ready for real life. Like you said, he lives in the band's apartment for free. So what happens IF you two decide to move into another place together and he still can't hold it together and can't afford to go 50/50? You still going to cover for him too? He's looking for a free ride PLUS benefits. So there's the costs and then the implicit help around the house. What happens when he decides to start bringing people over... because now he lives there, he isn't at the other place. I don't think you've REALLY thought this through to be honest. If I were you, instead of listing out what he needs to pay. List out everything you ALREADY pay and then ADD what you think bringing him in would cost. Give him a total and see what HE thinks he can afford. If it doesn't match your number at all by a long shot... you have your answer. Although I already think a 22 year old in a band and working at a restaurant is probably a ticking time bomb in of itself... but hey, it's your rent and relationship, not mine. 2
Gloria25 Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 If he 'has it so good' with whatever arrangement he has with his band, then why is he so eager to move in with you? 3
Els Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 To answer your question, of course it's fair for you to ask him to pay $250/month. It would even be fair for you to ask for 50/50. However that is entirely your choice - if you are happy paying more then that's your call. Just be sure it's what you really want to do.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 I think you can charge anyone whatever you want to live with you. Only you know what works for you. I very much agree with the advice to be careful with the legalities. Will you have any formal agreement on paper? Will you add him to the lease or not? What happens in case of a dispute - if he moves out suddenly, or refuses to move out if you ask him to? It would be wise to write up a document outlining all these points, then both date and sign, possibly have them notarized, or whatever you need to do to make the document official. 1
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