blindhope Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 She left me for a student of hers. I should hate her and despise her! I should have her arrested. Ruin her career. But I can't, almost 2 years later and love her just as much as I ever have. Not a single day has gone by that I havent thought about her. Haven't wanted the love of my life back. I've had other girlfriends. They said they love me. But she's the last woman I have ever said I love you to. How do I move on ? I can't !! I live her more than anything back t she hates me. I can't fins love outside of her. Help me . why do I do?
Elle1975 Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 You realize that she's not the one. The one would be with you. She isn't, now, is she? 2
Zzyxx Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 Have you continued going to therapy blindhope, or did something else recently traumatic in your life occur? Cause I've read all of your threads, and while it's totally normal to miss someone you were with for almost a decade, the rate at which you re-wrote history in your threads seems to be a bit alarming. This woman is a borderline pedophile, grossly exploiting and violating her clients trust, that then tried to take your dog. I understand that we love people that aren't good for us, and it's out of our control, but it's the fact that you can't see that she's vastly troubled and probably would have made your life hell if you had stayed with her that is a bit concerning. At the end of the day you didn't cause this breakup. Pretty much nothing could cause this woman going off the rails the way she did, except herself. I think she would have just taken you down with her. Again, it's only been 2 years out of seven, so the attachment aspect is still totally normal, but I would consider asking yourself why you feel the need to take responsibility for being dumped by a woman that is so vastly unbalanced and troubled.
shortnsweet79 Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 Unfortunately, if she cheated on you.. YOU'RE not the ONE for HER. Self-help books.. some quality therapy.. all real roads to recovery. It's not easy and I know you love her deeply.. but if you meant as much to her as she means to you.. she never would have chosen anything over you. The question you have to ask yourself is why would you want someone that doesn't want you? YOU are valuable! Yes! YOU have value! There is someone out there who will do flips and jump hoops to be with you... you can't find her till you completely heal from the trauma your ex has caused you. ((hugs))
loversquarrel Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 Why do you want to waste your life with a woman who is as disgusting as this?? Hey, I've been with a few women who weren't good for me then I found a nice young beauty who is my one. She is ten times what the others are. Yeah, I miss one of my ex's at times, but then I remind myself of how much of a nut job she was, then the feelings go away. It happens, you just have to tell at yourself sometimes, telling yourself how effed up they are and how what they did is just ****ty.
d0nnivain Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 You have a chat with yourself & recognize that you were wrong about her. She exercises poor judgment & you can do better. Then you work to keep her in your past.
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