dispatch3d Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 So i've been in the same friend group for a while now. We mostly just go to trivia, and have done this basically every week for the last couple years. There's a group of 3 hot girls in the group that initially just went and hit on guys at the bar, they would occasionally bring them back to our table then not sit with them or doing something similarly weird but whatever. Anyhow I always assumed these girls were out of my league. They were attractive, had stable/semi good jobs, and good personalities. One of them I hate but we'll just pretend that's not actually a thing haha. Not to mention they had no problem going up to guys they don't know at all, making moves, getting their numbers, and carrying things on from there. Whether they usually went home with them that night, or got their number and went on a date later, or whatever I really don't know. I don't give a damn. The hottest girl of this group is really attractive. Anyhow I got in fights with some of the guys about whether she's hot, how hot she is, etc. etc. They also love riipping on her/dumping on her/playfully trashing her which I find hilarious. People do the same thing to me in a playful manner, and I'm almost certain it bothers neither of us. She's also the most popular of the girls, or at least she's the girl all the girls want to sit next to at trivia, they want to hang out with her, etc. Whether that's because she tells good jokes (and she does) or that she gets a lot of attention from guys and that's why, I really don't know. Anyhow one week this girl sits next to me. She starts hitting on me a lot, and is doing so for about an hour. I always assumed she liked the weather/everything more than me, but I guess not. Anyhow it was one of the girls birthdays, and the other girls got mad that she was hitting on me, so they made her not sit next to me. If at this point it surprises you that I dislike the majority of the girls in the group, and find them some form of annoying, immature, or selfish, then I'm not sure what to say. Anyhow she got really mad at them and I should have backed her up because seriously you're breaking up her hitting on me because its your birthday? wtf? Anyhow this all happened like 6 weeks ago. When they broke us up I was like whatever, she was hitting on me hardcore enough I figured if she actually liked me this much it was going to happen anyways. The next week she doesn't go, the week after that we don't sit around each other, the week after she doesn't attend, we go out on a sunday but she sits with another group of friends, and then last week she went, there was open seat right next to me, but she sat on the other end of the table and we didn't talk the whole night. There is some other evidence she's like me for a while. She joked around with my friend repeatedly after trivia nights that me and her really hit it off at trivia. Which never really happened. My friend waited like 4 months to tell me she was doing this. asldkfjaslkdfj. She also asked me once about my dating life, which is awful and basically non existent. At the time I thought she was just being a jerk, since she has the best dating life of the group, so why ask me. Anyhow it makes more sense given the above. I also had a falling out with the group due to the girls slandering me to my friend, and for some reason unknown to me he didn't tell them to f off, which he should have. Anyhow the next time I went she made a point of sitting next to me, asking how I was doing and whats new with me. I basically just shut her down, assuming she just felt bad about the blowup and wasn't actually interested in me. She also one night almost started dating some guy, and when we were waiting for a cab on the porch she made a mad scramble to get a cigerette. At the time it seemed odd, why do you need one right now, noone else is even smoking out there, etc. Anyhow thoughts on asking her out via facebook? I was obviously hoping I could ask her out in person when I see her at trivia, but seeing as she only shows up 2/3 of the time, and even then its very hard to sit next to her, that hasn't happened for the last 6 weeks and frankly I'd rather just ask her out, find out if she wants to go out with me, and be over it rather than hoping and praying once a week that she shows up and sits next to me. Probably doing it tomorrow so if you want some say post now!
Destined2B Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Weak? If she finds you attractive and is interested, it really doesn't matter how you ask her.
somedude81 Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Why not send her a message about meeting up before trivia?
Author dispatch3d Posted October 26, 2014 Author Posted October 26, 2014 I'm probably just going to ask if she wants to go on a date sometime. I know there's a particular restaurant with a particular meal she likes to get on a first date, so I'd probably offer that and try to work out the scheduling after she agrees. I don't even have her phone number or anything. FWIW my schedule is awful. I work like 25-30 hours per week plus I'm in 4 courses at school so I have like maybe 10-15 hours of free time a week (which is not a very large number). I'd just make her a priority if she agrees and figure out how to get the appropriate work day off etc.
Author dispatch3d Posted October 27, 2014 Author Posted October 27, 2014 Well just to update. She said she's seeing someone else so not interested. She's really attractive and has a lot of options and I'm surprised she hit on me at all so meh. Probably wasn't a big deal to her anyways.
Chemist Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 Well just to update. She said she's seeing someone else so not interested. She's really attractive and has a lot of options and I'm surprised she hit on me at all so meh. Probably wasn't a big deal to her anyways. I'd wait till the next time your in person and push the bucket a bit more if she flirts. Boyfriends can be details... but then you need to ask yourself if she's the kind of girl you'd like to be involved with
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