aaronburner Posted October 25, 2014 Posted October 25, 2014 Almost a year ago I posted on here because I was struggling to end a very serious but very horrible relationship. Talking about it helped a lot and I never once regretted ending it. I think I deleted that account because I can't find it Anyway, here I am again! There is a girl who I rather adore. We started out as just a casual fling, no relationship, which was perfect for us both. She would be moving to the opposite side of the country for a really intense university program. I've always been attracted to her intelligence. We tried hard to keep it casual, knowing she would be leaving, but we connected so well that those obnoxious 'feelings' came up anyway over the course of a few months. We held each other and cried during the nights leading up to her departure. We also talked on the phone the night after she was gone because we both needed it. One thing lead to another and we found ourselves in a long distance relationship... ... it's now about 4 months later and I think I'm going to end it before we have time to invest any more feelings into it. It started as something based on wild crazy sex, it should have ended as something based on wild crazy sex. We never fight though, I mean nothing is 'bad' between us. I would even say that I still love her very much. But this distance is killing me and I don't think I'm the only one. If it was just a few more months we could make it work, but this is the better half of a decade in front of us. My last breakup went like an earthshattering explosion, but this is just fizzling out. Our texts are getting less frequent and definitely less exciting. We almost never make time for a phone call... The romance has faded away which leaves us with what? Friendship? I can't believe how much I care about her and sincerely wish her the best in love and in life. She's a wonderful person whom I won't forget.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 25, 2014 Posted October 25, 2014 OK, I have stated this way too many times on other topics all for different reasons. Yours seems to be the better of the bunch so here I go... I have over 3 years with my LDR whom we never met in person. The first year was casual online friends. We found each other to be soul mates. One thing that we accepted once we found love, was to expect nothing more than what we are able to share, and if one of us should move on, that it would not affect our love for each other. if we allowed ourselves to give in to common beliefs that hopeless love can never bring happiness, we would've never allowed ourselves to find our true love in life. I still don't expect to be able to touch her face, yet know as long as we both live there will be a day. As what we share in our online contact has never been shared by anyone we have ever been with. That in its self fills all our needs, passions, and dreams in ways, no other can match, even if we should be with another. Some say I am waisting time, but in reality, we are having something we never had so deeply in our lifetime. So, are you willing to let her be a dream, or make her a dream come true? Think about it, you may have to wait for her now, or wait a lifetime for another.
Author aaronburner Posted November 2, 2014 Author Posted November 2, 2014 I chickened out and waited for a week, but I finally did it today. You know what? That was the most pleasant breakup of my life, all over videochat. Apparently the feeling is mutual, that we've drifted into friendship and continuing a relationship just isn't going to work out. We agreed to end it but then we ended up chatting about life for the next hour - making each other laugh and stuff. It was a good talk and I don't think either of us will have trouble moving on.
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