How do you know when to break it off???

[woocky]

I am 24 I have curently been dating this girl for 3 years living together for 2. Pretty well at the 6th month mark I found myself thinking about other girls, and breaking up with her, but every time I think that way I would talk myself out of it. Are these normal feeling to have? Also finding myself not being very attracted to her. I love being with her, how can you tell if it is a friendship love or a girlfriend love. Just by me have doubt, is that a reason to break up? How do you know when it is time to break up and move on? I know it will never continue to be the same as it was the first few month of a new relationship, but are the feelings I am having normal and I really do love her, or should I break it off. This if my first long term/serious relationship. Opinions and Input would be great

[Pocky]

Do you want to spend the rest of your life with her?

[tokyo]

My guess is, if someone doesn't feel attracted to his partner, then he probably will never develop an attraction. I also doubt that a relationship with some kind of attraction will last. Maybe it's better to break it off now than when you fall in love with someone else and have to dump her. You could wait till you have fallen out of love completely, but that's just convenient for yourself, when you are ready. Sometimes it's not about being ready (also known as: I finally found the true love of myself, I'm soo sorry, but I'm not in love with you anymore), but doing the right thing. If she's in love with you, then I assume that she expects you to have the same feelings for her. If you can't give her that, what are you still doing there?

[TP]

I know how you feel. I am in the same situation. I too wonder whether or not these feelings are normal (and that everyone has these feelings) or if they actually mean that something isn't right with my relationship. I just don't know. Is there such a thing as not feeling unsure? Are you meant to feel this uncertain?