No proper closure

[Simply Me]

I'm so confused and depressed. I am in a Long Distance Relationship for 6 yrs already. Though we are far from each other but our communication was constant, almost everyday from morning till afternoon and in the evening. His last visit was September 2014 & he was here for 3 weeks and we spent time together. When he departed our conversation was ok. Infact he called me before his departure. When he arrived in his country, I haven't heard from him and of course I didn't bother to call, text or email him either because it is his usual behavior not to communicate w/ me for a week or two. But this time, its different, it's been a month and 6 days already since he arrived in his country w/out keeping intouch w/ me. And I know for a fact this he is talking to this girl who flirted w/ him for 1 year already. The girl pretended to be a good friend of him. We met the girl thrice during his vacation here last September and that was their first personal meeting after 1 year. During his vacation the girl kept on texting him early in the morning. I knw it because every time he received a msg early morning, he'll gonna say "it her again!". So I told him, then don't reply. Honestly, I don't like the way she's treating my bf at that time because she seem to be cheap and no respect with me considering she knows that I was with him.

 

Though I'm ready for this situation since before he left, I made a promise to myself that, that would be our last and I'm going to end the relationship once he go back to his country. I've been through a lot w/ this guy, deception, betrayal (this man or let me say my ex was a womanizer). For 6 years he made my life miserable and unhappy. I became a different person, coz I used to be passionate, loving and very sweet but having this guy in my life I've realized that I don't recognized myself anymore.

 

Right now, I'm confused if what he is showing me? Is this really goodbye? Coz I wan't to move on with my life already. I will be hypocrite if I say I don't miss him. Of course I do miss his call, his text and his voice. I even cried the whole month, i thought I will not go through w/ this process but I did. I was hurt, I was confused, and sometimes I get mad especially I'f I can see him online and the girl in one of the messenger. I have no idea if they are into relationship already, knowing the girl who would do anything to get this guy. I knw it because I've met her. Honestly I do love him that's why we reached 6 years because my love for him was greater than the hurt i felt inside but I can no longer tolerate his attitude this time! Very irresponsible person, very selfish! I need to respect myself because I deserve it! and I need to be happy. Whatever his doing now, I'm gonna respect it but please i need your opinion about this situation if what is the best thing for me to do since we don't have a proper closure :-(

[IfiKnewThen]

this is a hard call. but my first impression was contact him. that's right. he was with you all these years. he im guessing was intimate with you when there. he does owe it to explain his no communication with you. im sure hes ok...but he could be ceased for all you know. now im not saying hes not ok. im saying i think he owes it to you to tell you something out of human decency and respect. i wouldn't exercise the no contact thing , when he out of the blue did this to you. but im going to warn you ...it could hurt OR you may get some false hope. that is NOT what this is all about. its to take a chance in life and know. to talk calm and say...i dont need a commitment from you. things are obviously NOT normal here...but i think truly i am owed the human decency and dignity and respect of an answer here. why the no contact. why not tell me whats on your mind. whatever it is...nothing is worse that NOT knowing. tell him to do something good in his life by choosing at this moment to be decent and humane. tell him u are willing to listen and then u can continue to part your ways. but not knowing is inhumane and empty and just plain not right. ask him to call in 2 days please. if u dont hear from him them, seriously ...in order to survive write him off forever and find someone...local even if on match.com pray...and seek someone else. and never ever look back on him again. God can help u help yourself get through this. i feel for you so much. ((hugs)). take comfort in the stories and people here. and make new memories for yourself. God bless. i will pray for u tonight.

Edited October 24, 2014 by IfiKnewThen