Johnson1 Posted October 24, 2014 Posted October 24, 2014 (edited) I started to talking to this lady online. From her pics she's 46 and gorgeous. She told me how picky she is and I told her I was as well. We had great conversation on the dating site, so I offered up my cell so we could talk through text. The great conversations continued, but then for the heck of I decided to do a little investigative work, so I typed in her phone number in facebook and the profile that came up matches the pics on the dating site, only she's using different name. I spoke with her on the phone she told me she has 3 kids ages 16, 18 & 20 and she has a cover photo with her with her kids. On the phone and we really hit it off, but here's the problem, she won't send a 'real time' pic of herself doing an activity I request (like twirling her hair) so I can actually see that that the pics she put up on the dating site aren't older pics, or worse, of someone else (false name, which I don't think it could be because her number is obviously listed on fb and match the photos on the dating site. She said she would send a 'real time' pic if I do it first, but I don't think she will because there's not reason for her to not have done it when I first asked. Instead she gave me a pic she said was from last Saturday that is already on FB. I'm perplexed. The false name could just be a nickname because her FB name is Asian and maybe she thinks it's too ethnic. Either that or she's very paranoid about using her real first name on a website. I don't know if I should give her a real time pic and see if she gives one back or to block her altogether because she's playing a game. It seems like she is. She could just be paranoid like I am. LOL Dunno. Edited October 24, 2014 by Vocals5
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 24, 2014 Posted October 24, 2014 Instead of going back and forth playing games why haven't you just set a date to meet yet? Did you confront her about the discrepancies you found online? Meeting her in person doesn't keep her from lying to you about who she really is but at least you'll know if she is the person in her pics or not. Seems kind of simple to me. 3
Author Johnson1 Posted October 24, 2014 Author Posted October 24, 2014 Instead of going back and forth playing games why haven't you just set a date to meet yet? Did you confront her about the discrepancies you found online? Meeting her in person doesn't keep her from lying to you about who she really is but at least you'll know if she is the person in her pics or not. Seems kind of simple to me. I agree. I'm just trying to decipher if she's a head case that has some grand scheme set up first before I go meet her.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 24, 2014 Posted October 24, 2014 Dating sites are not what I would do, as Internet social things scare the bejesus out of me... well as long as I am indirectly being myself without showing who I am or any important details, I am somewhat ok about forums, but that is it in general. My SM would not send a picture until she felt I would truly accept her. I never asked as our relationship started oddly and grew over time. Her reasons why she does not do pictures or video is because she does not have any trust in the Internet as well. Just being new to each other and requesting pictures and what not that is personal, would make me feel a bit uneasy. But to request to hook up at public location for chat or lunch would be much better IMO. Seems like requesting for updated or special request pictures early in OLD, is taken by men lightly, when women feel it is going a bit too far in allowing instant trust. Now for the rude comment... Now I guess you have many other women you are interested in in OLD. So I guess you are in a hurry??? I would say she is interested in you, so why do you want more, if you only have her for now??? Do you see what I am getting at? Maybe not, showing a lack of trust is like slapping her in the face. Put expectations behind and work at allowing her to trust you enough to do an appearance date.
Author Johnson1 Posted October 24, 2014 Author Posted October 24, 2014 Did you confront her about the discrepancies you found online?. I didn't mention the discrepancies I found just in case she is 'not right in the head'. You know how some people can be when they're trapped in a lie. The lash out.
Author Johnson1 Posted October 24, 2014 Author Posted October 24, 2014 Maybe not, showing a lack of trust is like slapping her in the face. Put expectations behind and work at allowing her to trust you enough to do an appearance date. I've thought about that. Everything I do I do with a smiley and call her sweetheart just in case she is on the up and up. If she is what she appears I wouldn't want to ruin this because she is absolutely spectacular. I could just be paranoid. I don't know. All I know is there are some very smart people out there that come up with all kinds of crap to trick people. I don't want to be one of those people.
Author Johnson1 Posted October 24, 2014 Author Posted October 24, 2014 (edited) I just texted her back and we had a laugh about it. I told her I'd call her later. She actually has a great sense of humor. I think we're both just being overly paranoid is probably all it is. If I go missing everyone on here will know why. LMFAO Edited October 24, 2014 by Vocals5
Mrin Posted October 24, 2014 Posted October 24, 2014 Ya I would just send your activity pic first. As for the FB/dating site disconnect, I've actually run into that before with no nefarious schemes. I met a lady who had a screen name that was an obvious first name + last name initial. Something like SusanJ... Talked to her for two weeks calling her Susan the whole time. Right before we met up she told me that Susan was just her "screen name" and didn't bare any resemblance to her real first and last name. She was just kinda paranoid. We went out maybe 4 or 5 times and she was a totally normal person.
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