Luua Posted October 23, 2014 Posted October 23, 2014 (edited) I just want to drop a few lines for all of you who are suffering from a breakup. I got dumped at the beginning of 2014 by the person who I wanted to marry with (at least by then). I went through hell and back. Left me on the verge of depression: I stopped eating, reading, socializing, watching films, listening to music (I'm a music promoter so that was hard)... Going out, talking to friends, etc. Everything was too difficult so I just focused on breathing and perhaps getting dressed and taking showers every now and then. Yes, it was THAT bad. And I want to tell you it gets better. It indeed gets better. I thought I'd never meet anyone like him. I though I'd die alone, I thought I'd never fall in love again, I thought all kinds of things 'cause my self-esteem basically disappeared. Pfuff, gone! I thought lots of things. I started therapy which really helped. And little by little it went better. I started going out a bit more, changed my lifestyles, did some sports... After a long while started dating again, no serious commitment but just for fun. And I actually did have lots of fun, and learnt a lot, and learnt that being alone is also a beautiful thing if you know how to deal with it. It takes time, but time really heals all wounds. Be patient guys. Everything will get better. Stick to No Contact (rule #1). Don't fall for breadcrumbs, they won't lead you anywhere. And the rest is history. Enjoy your life, no matter how hard it can be sometimes. It will possibly be your most creative time as well: use it for better purposes, to get what you couldn't before, to be who you want to be. Eventually you'll find love again. I did. And it is, believe me, much better than what I lost. I thought it wasn't possible, but now I just thank the world for that. Be strong people! I just wanted to thank all the people who went through the same thing as I did. We're social animals and things are not always easy. But they do get eventually easier PS. Sorry for the possible mistakes, English is not my mother language! Edited October 23, 2014 by Luua 8
me85 Posted October 23, 2014 Posted October 23, 2014 Great for you! Thanks for sharing. It definitely gets better in time. Life is too short to spend it heartbroken and lost without a past lover. 1
StrangerThanFiction Posted October 24, 2014 Posted October 24, 2014 Been lots of people posting their moving on success stories lately and that makes me really feel like this hurt won't last forever. Thank you for sharing, OP!
dumbass2 Posted October 24, 2014 Posted October 24, 2014 Been lots of people posting their moving on success stories lately and that makes me really feel like this hurt won't last forever. Thank you for sharing, OP! It wont. One thing we have to tell ourselves is that it does not matter how long the relationship was or how it ended, that we all heal on different time frames and that it is okay if it seems like you are taking longer. I'm going through what "feels like" the final stages of one and I was killing myself with "it was only a 6 month relationship, why is this taking so long?" We all just handle things differently and there is not a perfect game plan to follow, just some really good advice out there from people that have gone through it, but sometimes we have to learn the hard way because we are human and this is not black and white. 3
blackcat777 Posted October 24, 2014 Posted October 24, 2014 Thank you for the positivity and encouragement.
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