megan9494 Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 when a guy looks at porn is that considered cheating? I have been w/my Bf for a few months and I saw on his computer porn sites that he viewed...Is that normal?? he only seems to look at porn the nights I am not there?? why would he need to look at that, does that mean I do not satisfy him???
WalkingTall Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Guys and porn is like ferrets and fur.... OK really bad analogy.... Anyway... the large percent of the male population look at or have looked at porn.... it really has nothing to do with you and how you satisfy him... I does of course have to do with you when the feelings surface.... Talk to him and ask him what he gets out of it. You may find some other threads on this subject helpful. Search through the threads and i know you will find... a gazillion on that subject. Good luck!!!
Hund1976 Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 He looks at porn when you're not there because he wants to masturbate and wants visual aids to help him. I would say its only a problem if you're in the bed and he would rather use the porn. If you're boyfriend was away and you watched a mushy movie and then took care of yourself while you fantasized about Mel Gibson would you consider that cheating? If the answer is no then ignore the porn.
reservoirdog1 Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 As a guy, I say no, it's not cheating. Cheating, in my opinion, requires an actual human being, in person or on the other end of a phone or internet connection. If we accept that looking at pictures or videos is cheating, then by extention a person is cheating if they fantasize about somebody else while masturbating. Or, as Hund says, fantasizing about a regular movie star. And we know that's not cheating. Of course, if he's using porn when you're ready, willing and able, then it's still not cheating, but it's a definite problem. You know, he'd probably be perfectly happy to watch porn WITH you sometime. Why not try that?
Lonestar Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 No offense to the original poster, but I hate these stupid porn questions. Can we start a FAQ for these things?
purple21 Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 I definitely don't think porn is cheating. I've been told many times that guys are visual and sometimes need some help while pleasing themself. I have some on my computer and I'm a girl - I just think of it of something to get you in the mood. And I don't think it has anything to do with you not being enough. I think pleasing yourself is just human nature and sometimes needs to be done when a significant other isn't around. Yeah - it could be a problem if he would rather look at porn then be with you like some sort of addict, etc but that doesn't seem to be the case. I thought everyone had some on their computer - oops
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